Eds and I loved our wedding bands so much…not only because its symbolizes the bond between us as man and wife but laso because of its elegant design. Lately we thought of having our rings' replicas made. When I attended to our booth yesterday at Festivall Supermall for the 2nd Southern Bridal Fair, we were placed alonside V-GEM Jewelry, who makes customized engagement rings and wedding bands. I found out that I could have our "everyday wedding ring" made. I had them copy our wedding ring but had them in silver and Russian Diamonds for everyday use only as Eds is often in night shift and I pften meet clients after office hours making it quite unsafe to wear with all the stones sparkling (eh Pinoy pa, makakita lang na makinang).What's good is that we got our replica rings in a very low price...really, I can't even believe it at first. I just paid the downpayment and the rest will have to be deposited to their account and they will have it shipped! Galing! I'm so excited...
May 31, 2009
May 29, 2009
Caught between career and married life
Whew… I never thought that making decisions would be one of the many few tasks I’ll be handling this soon. I was given the opportunity to tie-up with an already established events planning company (which I got as my wedding OTD). I know opportunity knocks only once but in a newlywed’s world, didn’t it knock too soon?
Wind Beneath My Wings…I must admit I was having second thoughts but come to think of it “lakasan lang ng loob” . I discussed it with Eds and I let him read the business proposal. Im glad God blessed me with a very supportive husband, he said “yes” without thinking twice but reminded me to look after my health and never to skip any meal…
I am giving myself two years…I think that would be enough…at least nagawa ko ang gs2 ko, may extra income pa kme but after two years, stop na me.
Wind Beneath My Wings…I must admit I was having second thoughts but come to think of it “lakasan lang ng loob” . I discussed it with Eds and I let him read the business proposal. Im glad God blessed me with a very supportive husband, he said “yes” without thinking twice but reminded me to look after my health and never to skip any meal…
I am giving myself two years…I think that would be enough…at least nagawa ko ang gs2 ko, may extra income pa kme but after two years, stop na me.
By then siguro ok na ang lahat… I have a big day ahead of me-nope not a wedding but a bridal fair. This time I will in a bridal fair not as a bride but as a wedding coordinator.
May 28, 2009
Teasers...
Here are two wedding pics teasers...these pics were still raw (unedited)...Ill be posting some more..
Fear vs. Self-Trust
So how does fear work it's magic? It reminds us of all the reasons why we shouldn?t marry the one we're with. And how do we combat this reasoning? Herein lies what I'll present as a simple answer, but actually requires hours and hours, if not years and years, of emotional work and discipline: we connect with that quiet space inside ourselves that knows the truth, that knows that we are with the right man, that knows that this is the right decision at this time in our lives.
Many, if not most, of you, through your emails to me and your posts on the message board, have expressed that you have a deep knowing that you?re with the right person. You know that you share the same values about family, children, religion, time. You communicate well enough. (We're not going for perfect here! I know, most of you are also perfectionists; it goes along with the conscious bride personality profile.) You generally get along well most of the time. You have fun together. At the core, you are good friends. Many of you have said to me, "I couldn't have found a better partner. I know he's the right one for me."
And then fear creeps in. And that's the time to find a quiet space and come back to yourself, back to your essence. What are the ways that you come to back to self? Is it through writing and journaling? Is it through talking on the phone to your best friend or sister or mother? Is it in nature, sitting under a tree and starting out at the trees and sky? How about exercise going for a run or taking a great yoga class? When you sense that fear is about to overwhelm you, stop whatever you're doing and take a few minutes sometimes it only takes five minutes to come back to yourself. It's in that quiet space that you remember your truth. It?s in the stillness of our beings, the deep place of soul, that we know all we need to know. Here is where we find trust. Here is where we find our answers.
It's not easy to rest in that place of self-trust. We live in a culture where trust in ourselves in our unique rhythms and our deepest knowings has been stamped out of us almost from the time we?re born. We are taught, often by well-meaning and very loving parents, to place the nucleus of our trust in other people, giving them the authority to know what?s best for us. This is a grave disservice, and we often spend the rest of our lives trying to figure out how to restore self-trust. And then we're faced with the biggest decision of our lives who and when to marry and we're paralyzed. How are we supposed to know that this is right? What if I make a mistake? What if? what if? what ? Okay. Stop. Come back to self. Find that quiet place within. Remember your truth. Restore one cell of self-trust at a time, that place inside that knows very clearly: is it a YES or a NO? This is your North Star. This is your answer. You may have to practice this discipline ten, twenty time a day. As I said, fear is strong and fear is on a mission. But the more you do it, the less power fear will hold. Essentially your saying to fear, "I'm choosing not to believe you anymore. I'm taking action that will reduce your hold on my psyche." It's a spiritual discipline, one that will serve you for the rest of your life.
Many, if not most, of you, through your emails to me and your posts on the message board, have expressed that you have a deep knowing that you?re with the right person. You know that you share the same values about family, children, religion, time. You communicate well enough. (We're not going for perfect here! I know, most of you are also perfectionists; it goes along with the conscious bride personality profile.) You generally get along well most of the time. You have fun together. At the core, you are good friends. Many of you have said to me, "I couldn't have found a better partner. I know he's the right one for me."
And then fear creeps in. And that's the time to find a quiet space and come back to yourself, back to your essence. What are the ways that you come to back to self? Is it through writing and journaling? Is it through talking on the phone to your best friend or sister or mother? Is it in nature, sitting under a tree and starting out at the trees and sky? How about exercise going for a run or taking a great yoga class? When you sense that fear is about to overwhelm you, stop whatever you're doing and take a few minutes sometimes it only takes five minutes to come back to yourself. It's in that quiet space that you remember your truth. It?s in the stillness of our beings, the deep place of soul, that we know all we need to know. Here is where we find trust. Here is where we find our answers.
It's not easy to rest in that place of self-trust. We live in a culture where trust in ourselves in our unique rhythms and our deepest knowings has been stamped out of us almost from the time we?re born. We are taught, often by well-meaning and very loving parents, to place the nucleus of our trust in other people, giving them the authority to know what?s best for us. This is a grave disservice, and we often spend the rest of our lives trying to figure out how to restore self-trust. And then we're faced with the biggest decision of our lives who and when to marry and we're paralyzed. How are we supposed to know that this is right? What if I make a mistake? What if? what if? what ? Okay. Stop. Come back to self. Find that quiet place within. Remember your truth. Restore one cell of self-trust at a time, that place inside that knows very clearly: is it a YES or a NO? This is your North Star. This is your answer. You may have to practice this discipline ten, twenty time a day. As I said, fear is strong and fear is on a mission. But the more you do it, the less power fear will hold. Essentially your saying to fear, "I'm choosing not to believe you anymore. I'm taking action that will reduce your hold on my psyche." It's a spiritual discipline, one that will serve you for the rest of your life.
(taken from: The Conscious Bride)
Transitions
An Overview of Transitions
Whether moving to a new city or having a baby, changing careers or going through a divorce, transitions are a part of life. While in the midst of change, even if the change is toward something joyous and positive like a wedding or moving into your dream house, it is normal and healthy to feel:
grief/heartbreak
confused
angry/enraged
disoriented
scared/terrified
numb
What most people lack around transitions is basic information that would help them to contextualize these emotions, make sense of them, and move through them effectively. Culturally, we focus on the externals of a transition planning a wedding, buying the car seat, packing the boxes to the exclusion of the inner realm. While the externals are important, when we bypass working consciously with the emotions activated during transition, we decrease our chances of adjusting to the new life as cleanly and gracefully as possible. This can have long-term negative consequences not only during the transition at hand but for our lives in general.
Every transition involves passing through three phases:
Letting Go During which we separate from the old life, grieve the losses, express and explore fears and expectations about the new life.
In-between During which we¹re in the liminal (limbo) zone of transition detached from the old life but not yet established in the new one a highly uncomfortable place characterized by feeling numb, disoriented, depressed, and out of control.
Rebirth In which we embrace the new life and identity and feel confident, comfortable, and excited about the possibilities of growth that a new beginning holds.
Everyone goes through multiple life changes each year that, with simple information and consciousness, could be transformed from stressful and depleting events to life-affirming and transformational events. We habitually think of change as "hard" or "negative", but what most people fail to recognize is that embedded in these predictable life-cycle occurrences are portals that invite us to spiral into a deeper layer of our personal growth. Instead of powering through transitions as quickly as possible, we would benefit greatly by embracing them as the gifts that they are.
From a spiritual perspective, every transition is an opportunity for growth. As we learn how to let go into the 'groundlessness' that defines the in-between stage of transition between the end of the old life and beginning of the new, we move into a more effortless alignment with life. Life is ever-changing, and when we approach transitions consciously and with the intention of growth, we eventually learn how to accept this truth with grace.
This is not an easy task. Transitions require no less than the willingness to die (symbolically), to sit in the uncomfortable void, and to be reborn. Who would willingly embrace this task? For some of us, we have no choice. Transitions seem to pull us into the underworld and create such fear, pain, confusion, and disorientation that we must seek help. While in the throes of the challenge, this may seem unfair and we may be plagued with questions like, "Why do others seem so blissfully happy during their engagement when my joy is accompanied by a sense of loss? Why do others move to a new city effortlessly when I feel terrified? How come she was able to re-marry so easily after her divorce when my heart is broken and I still have dreams about my ex?"
Yet when we finally emerge from the pain, we see that the struggle was well worth it. For to enter into the death-void-rebirth cycle is to embark on the heroine¹s journey. And when the heroine returns from her voyage, she carries the boons‹or jewels‹of her travels. One of the great boons is that she knows, at a deeper layer of consciousness, that there can be no light without entering the darkness, and that with each descent into her darkness, the light shines ever more brightly. She knows that next time she is pulled into the darkness‹which most likely will occur in the midst of her next major transition‹she will be able to navigate the journey more gracefully. She trusts that, even as she cries and rages, she is exactly where she needs to be.
Whether moving to a new city or having a baby, changing careers or going through a divorce, transitions are a part of life. While in the midst of change, even if the change is toward something joyous and positive like a wedding or moving into your dream house, it is normal and healthy to feel:
grief/heartbreak
confused
angry/enraged
disoriented
scared/terrified
numb
What most people lack around transitions is basic information that would help them to contextualize these emotions, make sense of them, and move through them effectively. Culturally, we focus on the externals of a transition planning a wedding, buying the car seat, packing the boxes to the exclusion of the inner realm. While the externals are important, when we bypass working consciously with the emotions activated during transition, we decrease our chances of adjusting to the new life as cleanly and gracefully as possible. This can have long-term negative consequences not only during the transition at hand but for our lives in general.
Every transition involves passing through three phases:
Letting Go During which we separate from the old life, grieve the losses, express and explore fears and expectations about the new life.
In-between During which we¹re in the liminal (limbo) zone of transition detached from the old life but not yet established in the new one a highly uncomfortable place characterized by feeling numb, disoriented, depressed, and out of control.
Rebirth In which we embrace the new life and identity and feel confident, comfortable, and excited about the possibilities of growth that a new beginning holds.
Everyone goes through multiple life changes each year that, with simple information and consciousness, could be transformed from stressful and depleting events to life-affirming and transformational events. We habitually think of change as "hard" or "negative", but what most people fail to recognize is that embedded in these predictable life-cycle occurrences are portals that invite us to spiral into a deeper layer of our personal growth. Instead of powering through transitions as quickly as possible, we would benefit greatly by embracing them as the gifts that they are.
From a spiritual perspective, every transition is an opportunity for growth. As we learn how to let go into the 'groundlessness' that defines the in-between stage of transition between the end of the old life and beginning of the new, we move into a more effortless alignment with life. Life is ever-changing, and when we approach transitions consciously and with the intention of growth, we eventually learn how to accept this truth with grace.
This is not an easy task. Transitions require no less than the willingness to die (symbolically), to sit in the uncomfortable void, and to be reborn. Who would willingly embrace this task? For some of us, we have no choice. Transitions seem to pull us into the underworld and create such fear, pain, confusion, and disorientation that we must seek help. While in the throes of the challenge, this may seem unfair and we may be plagued with questions like, "Why do others seem so blissfully happy during their engagement when my joy is accompanied by a sense of loss? Why do others move to a new city effortlessly when I feel terrified? How come she was able to re-marry so easily after her divorce when my heart is broken and I still have dreams about my ex?"
Yet when we finally emerge from the pain, we see that the struggle was well worth it. For to enter into the death-void-rebirth cycle is to embark on the heroine¹s journey. And when the heroine returns from her voyage, she carries the boons‹or jewels‹of her travels. One of the great boons is that she knows, at a deeper layer of consciousness, that there can be no light without entering the darkness, and that with each descent into her darkness, the light shines ever more brightly. She knows that next time she is pulled into the darkness‹which most likely will occur in the midst of her next major transition‹she will be able to navigate the journey more gracefully. She trusts that, even as she cries and rages, she is exactly where she needs to be.
(taken from the book which I brought a week before the wedding, The Conscious Bride)
May 27, 2009
Keep Them Coming...
Info#1
Im so excited...I jus got a text message from Sir Ruel (proprietor and head photographer of Blessing Photography) saying that the pictures are ready for choosing, the same goes for the album details...yipee. Eds and I will be dropping by their shop this afternoon.
Info #2
I'll be meeting with Lovella today for our prospective tie-up with events planning business which was supposed to be yesterday but then again we went out with my inlaws as they will be leaving soon for UAE again...
Im so excited...I jus got a text message from Sir Ruel (proprietor and head photographer of Blessing Photography) saying that the pictures are ready for choosing, the same goes for the album details...yipee. Eds and I will be dropping by their shop this afternoon.
Info #2
I'll be meeting with Lovella today for our prospective tie-up with events planning business which was supposed to be yesterday but then again we went out with my inlaws as they will be leaving soon for UAE again...
May 26, 2009
Putting Your SPOUSE in First Place
By entering into marriage, we take a great risk. We place our very selves — our own intimacy—into the hands of another, who, like we, is beset with defects.
Marriage, however, is a vocation from God, our specific pathway to Heaven. It’s the preeminent way we are meant to love and serve Him on this earth. Its purpose goes beyond our capabilities: to nurture and protect human love, and to unleash it on the world. God always makes up the difference.
But this noble purpose has to be fulfilled in the chaos and contradictions of everyday life — many obstacles are in our way.
Therefore, love for one’s spouse has to be shown in tangible, practical ways.
Putting Your Wife in First Place
We often hear of women’s “needs”. One of your wife’s greatest needs is for you to be her partner and teammate, as opposed to the roles you may be more inclined to fill: coach, referee, babysitter or “temp”.
Compliment your wife in person and behind her back. Let her know with very specific and sincere examples how much you admire her and her work in the home. Let others know it, too, whether in her presence (such as at social gatherings) or outside it (such as at work). You want to make it apparent to her that you notice and appreciate her efforts, and apparent to others that “This man really loves his wife!”
Don’t teach your wife to nag or sulk. Yes, it’s true. You do this when you don’t pay undivided attention to her words and ideas. A woman detests having to force her way into her husband’s mind and heart, and when faced with it, she will likely keep things bottled up until she has to explode. Unthinking males refer to this as “nagging”. Therefore, recognize that TV, newspapers, magazines, mail, hobbies, etc. are your mortal enemies when you get home from work. Avoid them, go straight to your wife, and with eye-to-eye contact, listen to her tell you how her day has gone. Better yet, take the initiative and ask her how she’s doing at least once a week — and give her all the time and attention she needs to tell you.
Give your wife a chance to listen to YOU. It’s equally important that you overcome your tiredness and emotional reticence to give your wife a regular peek into your mind and heart—joys, sorrows, fears, professional triumphs and failures, hobbies that captivate you, etc.
Safeguard your marriage from the scourge of “workaholism” or “professionalitis” through detachment from your work. Men are less naturally inclined than women to live “unity of life”, that is, to see all aspects of their lives as fitting together in an integrated whole. Instead, they are much more likely to “compartmentalize” their lives, even to the point of seeing a kind of opposition of work and family life. When this is the case, work usually wins!
You have to struggle, therefore, to detach yourself from your work and abandon the consequences into God’s hands. This struggle should include leaving work at a fixed and reasonable time (absent unusual circumstances), so as not to steal evening time from your wife; limiting work on weekends to a minimum; keeping a picture of your wife in your line of sight at work to remind you of her frequently during the day; and even taking the plunge and changing jobs if, after all your efforts, the one you have seriously interferes with family life. Remember: your wife and any one of your children are far more important than your job.
Don’t try to explain your wife’s hurts—what she really needs are your understanding and empathy. Men are hardwired to analyze things and look for solutions. If you approach a distraught woman’s problems as if they were a construction project, however, your hardwiring will short circuit. You will not be engaging with your wife personally, and that’s what she really is after, not solutions. You also will run the great risk of appearing to trivialize her concerns, which is extremely demoralizing to her.
Help with menial tasks around the house. It can be a form of pride to think that these jobs are beneath you. One helpful and challenging suggestion is to struggle hard to perform the task that either you or your wife detests the most. Doing either one will please her greatly.
Prefer to be with her when you’re out at social events. This can be a little challenging, given the natural tendency of men and women to hang out with members of their own genders at parties, etc. However, being separated from your bride for an extended period of time should be the exception rather than the rule. Let her (and the others) see that she is the one you want at your side.
Remember: “One hour spent making your wife happy is worth 100 hours of lecturing the kids.”
Putting Your Husband in First Place
Don’t expect him to be perfect. It’s to be hoped that the above points will have reminded him that he’s not perfect, and that he needs to work hard to fulfill his commitment of love in marriage. Make sure you let him know, in concrete ways, that you deeply appreciate his struggle — it’s very important to a man that his best and honest efforts are treasured.
Don’t expect him to be like a woman. He thinks, acts and reacts differently than you do, and believe it or not, this is a good thing! Don’t fall for the contemporary caricature of men as testosterone-poisoned little boys in adult bodies who are incapable of commitment, personal relationships or any other useful societal purpose. His maleness is there for you as a complement to your femininity — in other words, as a strength for you.
For example, as author James Stenson points out, a wife is more likely to view a spat between siblings as a lack of charity, focused as she is on family love and harmony: “It’s unkind to take your brother’s toy without his permission!” A father, however, with the male focus on justice rather than charity, will say, “You have no right to take that toy without permission — it’s unfair!” The great effect of this is that husband and wife will have educated their children in both justice and charity; they will also learn these virtues from each other as time goes on!
Lavish tenderness and care on your husband. There is little that matters more to a married man than the certainty of his wife’s deep affection and care for him. It’s his fixed point amid the chaotic demands of his professional life. You will express this best not by doing occasional, extraordinary things, but by unrelenting acts of simple tenderness on a regular basis. Examples: take his arm when you’re out walking, fix his favorite meal (even if you personally dislike it), dress and wear your hair in the ways that are most attractive to him, and smile, even when you least feel
like it!
Encourage him to foster friendships outside the home, and give him the time and space to do so. Although you are your husband’s best friend, you must realize that true friendship is sorely lacking among working men in this culture. Spending quality time with good friends will give your husband an opportunity to be of service to them, will enrich him personally, and will set a great example to his sons of the importance and attractiveness of friendship.
Have faith in his devotion to you, even when he is consumed with legitimate professional concerns and seems oblivious to your needs. This is one of the most challenging tests for an overwhelmed wife who doesn’t think she is getting enough help or attention from her husband. Should you be that “nag”, or should you hunker down and suffer in silence? There’s no easy answer to this, but one suggestion is that, during such times, you limit your requests for help to the “bare necessities” that will keep you going, and tell your husband with a weak smile that he will have to resuscitate you fully as soon as he can.
Conclusion: if each of you takes these matters to heart, you will be loving your spouse with his or her defects, and struggling against your own defects. Strangely enough, these are the most romantic things you can do for your spouse, because you will be living love where it really counts: in the ordinary things, day by day by day.
Marriage, however, is a vocation from God, our specific pathway to Heaven. It’s the preeminent way we are meant to love and serve Him on this earth. Its purpose goes beyond our capabilities: to nurture and protect human love, and to unleash it on the world. God always makes up the difference.
But this noble purpose has to be fulfilled in the chaos and contradictions of everyday life — many obstacles are in our way.
Therefore, love for one’s spouse has to be shown in tangible, practical ways.
Putting Your Wife in First Place
We often hear of women’s “needs”. One of your wife’s greatest needs is for you to be her partner and teammate, as opposed to the roles you may be more inclined to fill: coach, referee, babysitter or “temp”.
Compliment your wife in person and behind her back. Let her know with very specific and sincere examples how much you admire her and her work in the home. Let others know it, too, whether in her presence (such as at social gatherings) or outside it (such as at work). You want to make it apparent to her that you notice and appreciate her efforts, and apparent to others that “This man really loves his wife!”
Don’t teach your wife to nag or sulk. Yes, it’s true. You do this when you don’t pay undivided attention to her words and ideas. A woman detests having to force her way into her husband’s mind and heart, and when faced with it, she will likely keep things bottled up until she has to explode. Unthinking males refer to this as “nagging”. Therefore, recognize that TV, newspapers, magazines, mail, hobbies, etc. are your mortal enemies when you get home from work. Avoid them, go straight to your wife, and with eye-to-eye contact, listen to her tell you how her day has gone. Better yet, take the initiative and ask her how she’s doing at least once a week — and give her all the time and attention she needs to tell you.
Give your wife a chance to listen to YOU. It’s equally important that you overcome your tiredness and emotional reticence to give your wife a regular peek into your mind and heart—joys, sorrows, fears, professional triumphs and failures, hobbies that captivate you, etc.
Safeguard your marriage from the scourge of “workaholism” or “professionalitis” through detachment from your work. Men are less naturally inclined than women to live “unity of life”, that is, to see all aspects of their lives as fitting together in an integrated whole. Instead, they are much more likely to “compartmentalize” their lives, even to the point of seeing a kind of opposition of work and family life. When this is the case, work usually wins!
You have to struggle, therefore, to detach yourself from your work and abandon the consequences into God’s hands. This struggle should include leaving work at a fixed and reasonable time (absent unusual circumstances), so as not to steal evening time from your wife; limiting work on weekends to a minimum; keeping a picture of your wife in your line of sight at work to remind you of her frequently during the day; and even taking the plunge and changing jobs if, after all your efforts, the one you have seriously interferes with family life. Remember: your wife and any one of your children are far more important than your job.
Don’t try to explain your wife’s hurts—what she really needs are your understanding and empathy. Men are hardwired to analyze things and look for solutions. If you approach a distraught woman’s problems as if they were a construction project, however, your hardwiring will short circuit. You will not be engaging with your wife personally, and that’s what she really is after, not solutions. You also will run the great risk of appearing to trivialize her concerns, which is extremely demoralizing to her.
Help with menial tasks around the house. It can be a form of pride to think that these jobs are beneath you. One helpful and challenging suggestion is to struggle hard to perform the task that either you or your wife detests the most. Doing either one will please her greatly.
Prefer to be with her when you’re out at social events. This can be a little challenging, given the natural tendency of men and women to hang out with members of their own genders at parties, etc. However, being separated from your bride for an extended period of time should be the exception rather than the rule. Let her (and the others) see that she is the one you want at your side.
Remember: “One hour spent making your wife happy is worth 100 hours of lecturing the kids.”
Putting Your Husband in First Place
Don’t expect him to be perfect. It’s to be hoped that the above points will have reminded him that he’s not perfect, and that he needs to work hard to fulfill his commitment of love in marriage. Make sure you let him know, in concrete ways, that you deeply appreciate his struggle — it’s very important to a man that his best and honest efforts are treasured.
Don’t expect him to be like a woman. He thinks, acts and reacts differently than you do, and believe it or not, this is a good thing! Don’t fall for the contemporary caricature of men as testosterone-poisoned little boys in adult bodies who are incapable of commitment, personal relationships or any other useful societal purpose. His maleness is there for you as a complement to your femininity — in other words, as a strength for you.
For example, as author James Stenson points out, a wife is more likely to view a spat between siblings as a lack of charity, focused as she is on family love and harmony: “It’s unkind to take your brother’s toy without his permission!” A father, however, with the male focus on justice rather than charity, will say, “You have no right to take that toy without permission — it’s unfair!” The great effect of this is that husband and wife will have educated their children in both justice and charity; they will also learn these virtues from each other as time goes on!
Lavish tenderness and care on your husband. There is little that matters more to a married man than the certainty of his wife’s deep affection and care for him. It’s his fixed point amid the chaotic demands of his professional life. You will express this best not by doing occasional, extraordinary things, but by unrelenting acts of simple tenderness on a regular basis. Examples: take his arm when you’re out walking, fix his favorite meal (even if you personally dislike it), dress and wear your hair in the ways that are most attractive to him, and smile, even when you least feel
like it!
Encourage him to foster friendships outside the home, and give him the time and space to do so. Although you are your husband’s best friend, you must realize that true friendship is sorely lacking among working men in this culture. Spending quality time with good friends will give your husband an opportunity to be of service to them, will enrich him personally, and will set a great example to his sons of the importance and attractiveness of friendship.
Have faith in his devotion to you, even when he is consumed with legitimate professional concerns and seems oblivious to your needs. This is one of the most challenging tests for an overwhelmed wife who doesn’t think she is getting enough help or attention from her husband. Should you be that “nag”, or should you hunker down and suffer in silence? There’s no easy answer to this, but one suggestion is that, during such times, you limit your requests for help to the “bare necessities” that will keep you going, and tell your husband with a weak smile that he will have to resuscitate you fully as soon as he can.
Conclusion: if each of you takes these matters to heart, you will be loving your spouse with his or her defects, and struggling against your own defects. Strangely enough, these are the most romantic things you can do for your spouse, because you will be living love where it really counts: in the ordinary things, day by day by day.
Some Pics from ShampooShots Studio...
We got their services absolutely FREE...galing di ba? Lovella (our wedding coordinator) happens to be the friend of Nikon aka Ichigeki Hissatsu (the photographer behind these lovely shots) and Love asked my permission if she can bring him along for back up...absolutely free po...super thanks...
Making it legal...
2 of our 4 FlowerGirls...
A pose before entering the reception...
Blessings...
Our glorious cake...
Sneak Peak...
The bride and the soon-to-be-bride...(and my MOH din...)
Mom & Dad...
Newlyweds...
My MOH and Sister-in-law...
Newlyweds...
Me, Eds and Mama.
One ,big happy "Burgundy" family...
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