Whew...got a new reason to smile...a friend of ours sent two guestbooks/scrapbooks for us...perfect para naman mapasulat ko yung ibang di nakasaulat sa guestbook namin and para masimulan ko din ang project kong scrapbook ng wedding...
Jul 30, 2009
Jul 29, 2009
Our Pet Project!
Eds and I will shop for some room decorations on Saturday.
Here are some of our room inspirations...
Room inspiration #1
Room Inspiration #2
Our pet project is our very own room which we plan to decorate with Asian inspiration.
On top of our list is this uber nice coco shell bowl with bamboo stand ,picture frame with pebbles and this chic yet eco-trendy Abacca organizer boxes...(Regalong Pambahay) since we've got these three gorgeous items on our wedding day...
Here are some of our room inspirations...
Room inspiration #1
Room Inspiration #2
ON NSO and CERTIFIED TRUE COPIES
When we go our marriage contract a few weeks after the wedding, I was told that I have to wait for about a month before I can secure an NSO copy (which many government agencies prefer). Last July 16, almost two months after the wedding, I made an online request at e-census.com.ph.
Im a frequent user of this service during the time when Eds and I needed the documents for the wedding preps and it never failed me. So there, after a week, Eds placed our payment via myBDO, Php 315.00 for a copy. I was almost certain that we'd get the contract by tomorrow when I saw an email stating
"the marriage certificates registered in BACOOR, CAVITE for the month of May - 2009 have not yet been converted to electronic format and therefore, these are not yet lodged in our Civil Registry System (CRS) database. Thus, your request will require manual search and retrieval at the paper/microfilm archives of the National Statistics Office (NSO). This may take approximately ten (10) to fifteen (15) working days."
..oh well...
Im a frequent user of this service during the time when Eds and I needed the documents for the wedding preps and it never failed me. So there, after a week, Eds placed our payment via myBDO, Php 315.00 for a copy. I was almost certain that we'd get the contract by tomorrow when I saw an email stating
"the marriage certificates registered in BACOOR, CAVITE for the month of May - 2009 have not yet been converted to electronic format and therefore, these are not yet lodged in our Civil Registry System (CRS) database. Thus, your request will require manual search and retrieval at the paper/microfilm archives of the National Statistics Office (NSO). This may take approximately ten (10) to fifteen (15) working days."
..oh well...
IN BETWEEN THE LINES...
A applied for a Smart line a couple of weeks ago since I am into Events Planning and would frequently receive queries via SMS. I went for the Smart Gold Lite Plan.
WHY I CHOSE SMART GOLD LITE PLAN?
NO NEED TO LOAD
Even when calling and texting other networks.
MORE FLEXIBILITY
Call and text even beyond your monthly plan amount.
LOWEST POSTPAID PER MINUTE CALL RATE
P2/min. Smart-to-Smart and Smart-to-Talk 'N Text.
NATIONWIDEST COVERAGE
Call from anywhere in the Philippines anytime
Best of all...you only need to present an ID and wait for 15 minutes then you are on your way to post-paid privileges!
WHY I CHOSE SMART GOLD LITE PLAN?
NO NEED TO LOAD
Even when calling and texting other networks.
MORE FLEXIBILITY
Call and text even beyond your monthly plan amount.
LOWEST POSTPAID PER MINUTE CALL RATE
P2/min. Smart-to-Smart and Smart-to-Talk 'N Text.
NATIONWIDEST COVERAGE
Call from anywhere in the Philippines anytime
Best of all...you only need to present an ID and wait for 15 minutes then you are on your way to post-paid privileges!
Jul 27, 2009
One Wedding Day at a Time
I had my fourth wedding as an assistant events manager last night at the Glass Garden events venue in Pasig City. The wedding of Meach and Allan was splendid not only because we were their OTD but because we know how they both put effort into planning this event...here are the proofs
...our ever efficient team
...their wonderful wedding ceremony & reception
Meach and Allan's table numbers...
...our ever efficient team
...their wonderful wedding ceremony & reception
...more pink and brown
Meach and Allan's table numbers...
...a sea of pink and brown
Jul 23, 2009
Official...Legal...
After numerous papers and membership form updates from SSS to Pag-ibig, BIR and Philhealth. I have finally accomplished all the legalities and the papers...from the long lines to the redundant information...did them all...finally...I can present myself as Mrs. Abygail Pasco Magbag minus the explanations as to why my ID still bears my maiden name...And finally we have our NSO copy of our Marriage Certificate...
Here are some of the links that might help you update your records
Jul 20, 2009
Highs & Lows
...business as usual
Highs... Lovey and I went (along with my hubby Eds)to Splendido to accompany our client as she makes an occular inspection for her forthcoming wedding. It was my first time in Splendido and it was a good experience. I loved the old world rustic charm-the Tower, the red and brown bricks that lay across the pavement...the fountain (which reminds me of Mexican teleseryes)...the Tinapa Pasta (yes! super sarap)...here are the proofs...
...Tinapa Pasta
Lows
My nanay lola is still in the hospital.She had been admitted last Saturday after doctors found out that her right has fluids...so sad...Nay, get well soon!
My nanay lola is still in the hospital.She had been admitted last Saturday after doctors found out that her right has fluids...so sad...Nay, get well soon!
Beautiful!
I would like to express my heartfelt thanks to Sis Kite for this award. Now Im more than elated to do my everyday posts...naku been busy kasi lately eh.
Neweiz, Im passing this award to my Sisses:
Ahya
Maan
Apol
Helene
Lorna
Jul 19, 2009
10 "Trying-To-ConceiveTo Do's
1. Get An OB-GYN Check Up
Let your doctor know your pregnancy plans are on the horizon. Talk about any meds you take for chronic conditions (like diabetes, acne, or hypothyroid disease), update your immunizations, and find out what medications are safe to use while pregnant.
2. Get Your Genes Tested
Ask your gyno or a genetic counselor to check your DNA to see if you carry untreatable genetic disorders like Tay-Sachs, cystic fibrosis, or sickle cell anemia.
3. Start Taking Vitamins
You’ll want to start a vitamin regimen that includes folic acid. The sooner you start these positive habits, the easier your pregnancy will be.
4. Go To The Dentist
All of the extra blood flow and estrogen in the body can lead to more plaque production and bleeding gums. Get a cleaning and any X-rays done before you get pregnant and make sure your smile is in optimal condition.
5. Create A New Budget
Ask friends with babies how much they spend on junior each month, including diapers, baby food, clothes, and splurges. Try factoring this into your budget now, saving the rest for the baby just-in-case fund, and see how you adapt.
6. Get Rates For Disability & Life Insurance
Disability must be purchased before you get pregnant if you want it to cover your birth and postpartum time. Beware: Most policies require several months before you're actually eligible. Also, meet with a few agencies to find a good rate on life insurance (your car and health insurance companies may give you the best deal).
7. Learn Your Cycle
Women typically ovulate mid-cycle. This is your most fertile time and when you’ll have the best chance of conceiving. But the timing of it differs from woman to woman—and possibly even from month to month. The first day of your cycle (day 1) is the first day of your period. Therefore, if you typically follow a 28-day cycle, you would most likely ovulate on day 14. Track your body over the course of a few months to get an idea of the best time to try. To determine when that is, visit our ovulation calculator at http://TheNestBaby.com/ calculators/ovulation.aspx
8. Find Out About Family Leave
Have you been at your current job long enough to be covered by the Federal Family and Medical Leave Act? Every employer has its own policies on top of the law regarding how much maternity leave is paid (or partially subsidized). Get your man in on the act and have him find out about paternity leave too.
9. Create A Will
Make sure your baby-to-be is as covered as possible in case something horrendous were to happen to either one of you. Enlist a Plan A and a Plan B person with power of attorney so your financial and medical affairs are in good hands if one of you becomes unable to handle them. While you’re at it, consider a health-care directive or health-care proxy that will make your wishes clear if any kind of medical situation arises.
10. Quit Your Vices
You’ve heard it a zillion times, but you have to stop smoking and drinking heavily. See if you can do it now—so there’s no worry when the test is positive.
Let your doctor know your pregnancy plans are on the horizon. Talk about any meds you take for chronic conditions (like diabetes, acne, or hypothyroid disease), update your immunizations, and find out what medications are safe to use while pregnant.
2. Get Your Genes Tested
Ask your gyno or a genetic counselor to check your DNA to see if you carry untreatable genetic disorders like Tay-Sachs, cystic fibrosis, or sickle cell anemia.
3. Start Taking Vitamins
You’ll want to start a vitamin regimen that includes folic acid. The sooner you start these positive habits, the easier your pregnancy will be.
4. Go To The Dentist
All of the extra blood flow and estrogen in the body can lead to more plaque production and bleeding gums. Get a cleaning and any X-rays done before you get pregnant and make sure your smile is in optimal condition.
5. Create A New Budget
Ask friends with babies how much they spend on junior each month, including diapers, baby food, clothes, and splurges. Try factoring this into your budget now, saving the rest for the baby just-in-case fund, and see how you adapt.
6. Get Rates For Disability & Life Insurance
Disability must be purchased before you get pregnant if you want it to cover your birth and postpartum time. Beware: Most policies require several months before you're actually eligible. Also, meet with a few agencies to find a good rate on life insurance (your car and health insurance companies may give you the best deal).
7. Learn Your Cycle
Women typically ovulate mid-cycle. This is your most fertile time and when you’ll have the best chance of conceiving. But the timing of it differs from woman to woman—and possibly even from month to month. The first day of your cycle (day 1) is the first day of your period. Therefore, if you typically follow a 28-day cycle, you would most likely ovulate on day 14. Track your body over the course of a few months to get an idea of the best time to try. To determine when that is, visit our ovulation calculator at http://TheNestBaby.com/ calculators/ovulation.aspx
8. Find Out About Family Leave
Have you been at your current job long enough to be covered by the Federal Family and Medical Leave Act? Every employer has its own policies on top of the law regarding how much maternity leave is paid (or partially subsidized). Get your man in on the act and have him find out about paternity leave too.
9. Create A Will
Make sure your baby-to-be is as covered as possible in case something horrendous were to happen to either one of you. Enlist a Plan A and a Plan B person with power of attorney so your financial and medical affairs are in good hands if one of you becomes unable to handle them. While you’re at it, consider a health-care directive or health-care proxy that will make your wishes clear if any kind of medical situation arises.
10. Quit Your Vices
You’ve heard it a zillion times, but you have to stop smoking and drinking heavily. See if you can do it now—so there’s no worry when the test is positive.
Jul 16, 2009
Its All About The Pictures
Forget about putting a cheesy 20 x 20 above your fireplace; it's just too...much. Instead, try these fresh tips to show off your twosome:Create a Series
Buy frames in the same color but in four or five different sizes; then enlarge or reduce your favorite photographs to suit the frames. Choose a room where you can hang them together (anywhere from your entryway to your den) as a series. Or create a cool wall ledge to display multiple frames.
Mix It Up
Along with a posed wedding shot, include some candids or pics of your favorite details, such as the church facade or your bouquet. Go with black-and-white or sepia photos (save the color ones for your screensaver). Add a handwritten note or paper invitation in a shadow box frame that will make the wall more visually interesting.
Prep the Area
Make paper cutouts that are the size of your frames and lightly tack them up with tape to make sure you’re happy before you even think about picking up a hammer! There should be at least two inches of space between the frames.
No Wall Space
Buy a high-grade, large-size journal and place prints of photos in there for a classic, old-school look. Put it on your coffee table and leave it open to create an eye-catching display for the guests at your next cocktail party.
Secrets to a Hotter Relationship
1. Flirt like it’s your first night together.
Think back to those early days of dating. Every laugh, lingering look, or under-the-table leg brush was a guaranteed goose bump-giver. Well, you can turn back the clock to that supercharged state by making a simple shift: Start flirting again. If you’re at a party, slink away, get a couple of drinks, and flirtatiously introduce yourself like you’re strangers. It may take him a second to catch on, but once he does, it’ll set a sexier tone for the rest of the night -- and remind you both that there’s still a lot to discover about each other.
2. Make your significant other do a double-take.
That’s one of the brilliant things about being a couple -- being so at ease in each other’s company. But there’s a line between being comfortable and letting yourselves go. (Hint: If you frequently show up to the dinner table in sweaty gym gear or go to bed with zit cream and prickly cactus legs, you’re guilty as charged.) Break out that lingerie crammed in the back of your drawer. Wear something backless. Shave and put on a nicer shirt than usual when you go out to dinner. It’s about showing your significant other that they’re still worth looking sexy for.
3. Try something new (channel surfing doesn’t count).
You love your routine, so why mess? Well, shaking things up every once in a while keeps the zsa-zsa-zsu in your relationship. According to a study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, couples who participated in activities that they both considered highly exciting but moderately pleasant had a bigger boost in satisfaction than those who did activities that were highly pleasant but moderately exciting. Check out a concert you’d never think to get tickets for, or explore a totally different part of town. The adrenaline rush will be an aphrodisiac.
4. Pounce…even when you’re not in the mood.
Skipping the most intimate act you two could possibly enjoy together, you’re not doing your relationship any favors. Here’s why: Intercourse and orgasms trigger oxytocin, the “love hormone,” to be released in your bodies, which makes you feel incredibly fused as a couple. Sex is also the gift that keeps on giving: The more you do it, the more you’ll want to do it, so it actually stokes desire. So set that alarm clock a little earlier for wake-up action, and put down that pint of mocha pecan postdinner and enjoy another kind of bedroom treat (better yet, bring in the ice cream too). You don’t need Olympic-level performances -- just enough enthusiasm to get that mojo going.
(from: http://www.thenest.com)
2. Make your significant other do a double-take.
That’s one of the brilliant things about being a couple -- being so at ease in each other’s company. But there’s a line between being comfortable and letting yourselves go. (Hint: If you frequently show up to the dinner table in sweaty gym gear or go to bed with zit cream and prickly cactus legs, you’re guilty as charged.) Break out that lingerie crammed in the back of your drawer. Wear something backless. Shave and put on a nicer shirt than usual when you go out to dinner. It’s about showing your significant other that they’re still worth looking sexy for.
3. Try something new (channel surfing doesn’t count).
You love your routine, so why mess? Well, shaking things up every once in a while keeps the zsa-zsa-zsu in your relationship. According to a study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, couples who participated in activities that they both considered highly exciting but moderately pleasant had a bigger boost in satisfaction than those who did activities that were highly pleasant but moderately exciting. Check out a concert you’d never think to get tickets for, or explore a totally different part of town. The adrenaline rush will be an aphrodisiac.
4. Pounce…even when you’re not in the mood.
Skipping the most intimate act you two could possibly enjoy together, you’re not doing your relationship any favors. Here’s why: Intercourse and orgasms trigger oxytocin, the “love hormone,” to be released in your bodies, which makes you feel incredibly fused as a couple. Sex is also the gift that keeps on giving: The more you do it, the more you’ll want to do it, so it actually stokes desire. So set that alarm clock a little earlier for wake-up action, and put down that pint of mocha pecan postdinner and enjoy another kind of bedroom treat (better yet, bring in the ice cream too). You don’t need Olympic-level performances -- just enough enthusiasm to get that mojo going.
(from: http://www.thenest.com)
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~~Begin Copy~~
This is the easy way and the fastest way to:
1. Make your Authority Technorati explode.
2. Increase your Google Page Rank.
3. Get more traffic to your blog.
4. Makes more new friends.
Rules :
1. Start copy from “Begin Copy” until “End Copy” to your blog.
2. Put your own blog name and link.
3. Tag your friends as much as you can.
1.Picturing of Life 2. Juliana’s Site 3. Hazel-My Life, My Hope, My Future.4. Jeanne-The Callalily Space 5.My Family is my Life 6. The Simple Life of a Baghag 7. On A Wonderful Day Like Today 8. House Everything 9. The Creativity in Me 10. Travel and Photography 11. Yesterday, Today and Tomorrow 12. You Are My Sunshine 13.Song to Remember 14. Super Blog 15. Philiippine Tv Marathon 16.Simply Blue 17. Breaking the Boundaries 18. Top Five 19. A Simple Life 20. Simple Happy Life 21. A Great Pleasure 22. Glossa~licious 23. Time Goes By 24. Sweet Nothings 25. Online Mommy's Corner! 26. Me, Myself and Darly 27. Kero's Celebration 28. Me, Myself and I 29. Introspection 30.Tales of A Blushing Wife ~~End Copy~~
I am passing this on to my beloved friends/sisses. Let's all spread love & friendship!
Ahya
Helene
Crisanta
Maan
This is the easy way and the fastest way to:
1. Make your Authority Technorati explode.
2. Increase your Google Page Rank.
3. Get more traffic to your blog.
4. Makes more new friends.
Rules :
1. Start copy from “Begin Copy” until “End Copy” to your blog.
2. Put your own blog name and link.
3. Tag your friends as much as you can.
1.Picturing of Life 2. Juliana’s Site 3. Hazel-My Life, My Hope, My Future.4. Jeanne-The Callalily Space 5.My Family is my Life 6. The Simple Life of a Baghag 7. On A Wonderful Day Like Today 8. House Everything 9. The Creativity in Me 10. Travel and Photography 11. Yesterday, Today and Tomorrow 12. You Are My Sunshine 13.Song to Remember 14. Super Blog 15. Philiippine Tv Marathon 16.Simply Blue 17. Breaking the Boundaries 18. Top Five 19. A Simple Life 20. Simple Happy Life 21. A Great Pleasure 22. Glossa~licious 23. Time Goes By 24. Sweet Nothings 25. Online Mommy's Corner! 26. Me, Myself and Darly 27. Kero's Celebration 28. Me, Myself and I 29. Introspection 30.Tales of A Blushing Wife ~~End Copy~~
I am passing this on to my beloved friends/sisses. Let's all spread love & friendship!
Ahya
Helene
Crisanta
Maan
Jul 15, 2009
The Bag-Aholic Me...
I love bags and so I LOVE Roototes!
I learned about them from Kathycot (a former fellow W@Wie) , a pinay blogger when I bloghopped on her site. Good thing there’s a local seller of Rootote in multiply! Im getting one for myself! Im getting the Paris Crutto Design since it has the “couture map” of Paris as its design…Its so cute!
(http://www.roototesphilippines.multiply.com)
Jul 14, 2009
Back to the Grind
Classes had been suspended for 10days in the school where I teach as a 3rd Year English teacher and adviser. I enjoyed my vacation as it gave me time para maasikaso si Eds-cook breakfast for him, prepare his things when he wakes up and takes his bath, fix his food before he leaves for work...hay...now we are back to school and back to my daily grind-back to writing syllabus, lesson plan, back to pagsasaway ng mga "anak"(advisory class) ko and paglilipat bahay (classroom) since I requested a transfer of classroom dahil sa sobran init sa classroom ko.
Naman...bigay nyo na kasi yung scouting honorarium namin and performance rating...tsktsktsk...
Naman...bigay nyo na kasi yung scouting honorarium namin and performance rating...tsktsktsk...
Jul 13, 2009
Economy Vs. Happily Ever After
Is the current state of our economy affecting your wedding plans?
With the rough economy, we find more and more people wary of their spending and more conscientious of their finances. Wedding being a big money-magnet, it’s just logical to think that the wedding industry will be affected as much as the other industries. This doesn’t seem to be the case.If there’s one thing that just might be recession-proof, it’s the wedding dreams of young brides-to-be.
(From http://www.ayleebits.com)
“If you’ve had a dream since you were a little girl, you’re probably not going to change it much.”
With the rough economy, we find more and more people wary of their spending and more conscientious of their finances. Wedding being a big money-magnet, it’s just logical to think that the wedding industry will be affected as much as the other industries. This doesn’t seem to be the case.If there’s one thing that just might be recession-proof, it’s the wedding dreams of young brides-to-be.
(From http://www.ayleebits.com)
“If you’ve had a dream since you were a little girl, you’re probably not going to change it much.”
I Love MY HMUA
I met Tita Ludy Riva through Ms. Margie (who made my lovely unity candles). She recommended Tita Ludy to me for my pre-nups (Island Cove) last September and fell I instantly felt the connection. She was very accommodating and very malambing...I never felt nervous when we were having our pre-nups as she would continue to coach us even during the pictorial.Eds loved the outcome of my trial make-up and said that we should get Tita Ludy...
...here are some of my pre-nup pics
Though we tried Ms. Chichi Sotomil for the W@W prenups pictorial, my mom said she liked my look better during the Island Cove prenups so the wedding we decided to have Tita Ludy already.
For those W@Wie brides who are asking me for her number
Ms Lourdes Riva
http://lourdesriva.multiply.com
Package: THMUA P1,000.00
Airbrush Package for Bride: Php 5,000.00 (includes groom + 2 pax)
Php 1,000.00 additional pax
For those W@Wie brides who are asking me for her number
Ms Lourdes Riva
http://lourdesriva.multiply.com
Package: THMUA P1,000.00
Airbrush Package for Bride: Php 5,000.00 (includes groom + 2 pax)
Php 1,000.00 additional pax
Jul 10, 2009
Our Share of Space...
...the lifestyle section spread
I was delighted to see our wedding announcement posted a day after our wedding at the Milestones section of the Philippine Daily Inquirer
I always dreamt of having my wedding announcement posted in their Milestones section kaya super asar asko when somebody borrowed our copy and didnt return it...kaya super saya ko when I learned you can actually download a pdf copy of back issues of Philippine Daily Inquirer for only $0.99...so I downloaded it an Im planning to have it printed na sa kakilala ko whereby the pages are glossy...then saka ko ifframe..yehey!
...a closer look
Actual newspaper
Our share of space...
Sharing Some Treasures
Since my wedding is over (and it was the wedding we both dreamed of!), I would like to share some templates that helped me keep my sanity amidst the chaos of our wedding preps.
Click here for the templates:
From http://www.ayleebits.com
Passport Save the Date
From http://www.russellandhazel.com
Rectangular Table Floor Plan
Round Table Floor Plan
Square Table Floor Plan
Wedding Day Timeline
Click here for the templates:
From http://www.ayleebits.com
Passport Save the Date
From http://www.russellandhazel.com
Rectangular Table Floor Plan
Round Table Floor Plan
Square Table Floor Plan
Wedding Day Timeline
Jul 9, 2009
Full Blast
Ive been having worries before on whether or not I can juggle my time being a wife, a high school teacher and an events manager. Though Eds had been ever supportive of my undertakings, I feel like I dont wanna over do it to the point that we are not seeing each other anymore. Lagi naman niyang sinasabi "alam mo naman na naiintindihan ko".
But lately, I have really been enjoying the events that we have had and now, I have my whole heart and soul to it. Its a green light for me.
Sayang ang daming queries sa amin, in fact by December alone we have 14 weddings on our calendar and they still keep on coming...So cheers to us...
More events to come...
Jul 8, 2009
Blast from the Past
80's lover ako so what?
...80's baby ako...
I grew up listening to Menudo, Chicago, Air Supply, Tiffany, Debbie Gibson, Swing Out Sisters, The Jets...hay super love ko talaga sila. Eds would ofte tune the car radio to the station that palys the 80's hits every Sunday kasi alam niya all smiles ako pag naririnig ko ang mga songs...
Now nagttrip ako...listening to Explosion, Canonball, Please be Good To Me If Youre Not Here at No One Can Love You More of Menudo...Only In My Dreams by Debbie Gibson..Make It Real, Same Love and You Got It All by The Jets...Billy Jean and Thriller ni MJ...
deadma if these songs kinda reveals my age...
...80's baby ako...
I grew up listening to Menudo, Chicago, Air Supply, Tiffany, Debbie Gibson, Swing Out Sisters, The Jets...hay super love ko talaga sila. Eds would ofte tune the car radio to the station that palys the 80's hits every Sunday kasi alam niya all smiles ako pag naririnig ko ang mga songs...
Now nagttrip ako...listening to Explosion, Canonball, Please be Good To Me If Youre Not Here at No One Can Love You More of Menudo...Only In My Dreams by Debbie Gibson..Make It Real, Same Love and You Got It All by The Jets...Billy Jean and Thriller ni MJ...
deadma if these songs kinda reveals my age...
The Premise of the 7 Year Itch...
When Marilyn Monroe played the iconic character of the 22-year-old "The Girl" in the 1955 flick The Seven Year Itch, a stir was caused among psychologists, pop culture analysts and couples alike. Never before had this ever been perceived to be a real threat to a relationship. Yet here it was, suddenly thrust into the spotlight and getting clucky women into a tizzy.
The premise of the seven-year itch?
The relationships starts, progresses and evolves. Everything is orgasmic, electrifying and passionate. That is, up until the relationship hits the dreaded seven-year mark. And suddenly things go mightily pear-shaped.
The relationships starts, progresses and evolves. Everything is orgasmic, electrifying and passionate. That is, up until the relationship hits the dreaded seven-year mark. And suddenly things go mightily pear-shaped.
Monogamy is thrown out the window along with respect, love and commitment. There's a sudden itch, which needs to be scratched. Unfortunately, many 
relationships don't survive ...
While nowadays the term has become a fully-fledged member of our dating lexicon, apparently there's a new itch on the relationship break-up agenda and it happens a little earlier than expected.
Two years, six months and 25 days.
This is according to a recent British study of 5000 couples who've been together for more than 10 years.
It seems that, according to the respondents, when the two and a half year mark strikes, women stop caring about their appearance as much, men quit tidying up after themselves so much and most blokes stop bothering to put the toilet seat down.
Spokesman John Sewell said that the reason for the itch was that, while the couple still love each other immensely, they get "a little too comfortable in each other's company".
Women stop wearing make-up, take up trakky daks instead of sexy lingerie and men conveniently forget to pick up their dirty socks, laundry and other mess around the house.
Yet a friend of mine has another theory. While she's just made it over her two and a half year hurdle with her man, the key is to get more romantic, trim and sexy than ever before.
"Holding a man's attention definitely takes work," she said. "Yes, to them, sex with another woman is just sex, but if you're capturing their eye enough, they won't even have time to look around."
Another, who's recently reached the whopping seven-year mark in her relationship concurs. He says the key to it all is exercise, alone time and loads of hanky panky.
"There's no such thing as an itch if you take each day at a time. It's when the focus is on getting too comfortable and no longer caring about things, that's when trouble starts to brew."
But aside from the comfort factor, how long does passion last? Can you re-ignite it once it's lost? Or does that spell the kiss of death for the relationship?
What do you think? Is there such a thing as an "itch"? Do you find your relationships always end after a few months or years? And what's the best way to get the spice back into the relationship?
Happy Lovin!
relationships don't survive ...While nowadays the term has become a fully-fledged member of our dating lexicon, apparently there's a new itch on the relationship break-up agenda and it happens a little earlier than expected.
Two years, six months and 25 days.
This is according to a recent British study of 5000 couples who've been together for more than 10 years.
It seems that, according to the respondents, when the two and a half year mark strikes, women stop caring about their appearance as much, men quit tidying up after themselves so much and most blokes stop bothering to put the toilet seat down.
Spokesman John Sewell said that the reason for the itch was that, while the couple still love each other immensely, they get "a little too comfortable in each other's company".
Women stop wearing make-up, take up trakky daks instead of sexy lingerie and men conveniently forget to pick up their dirty socks, laundry and other mess around the house.
Yet a friend of mine has another theory. While she's just made it over her two and a half year hurdle with her man, the key is to get more romantic, trim and sexy than ever before.
"Holding a man's attention definitely takes work," she said. "Yes, to them, sex with another woman is just sex, but if you're capturing their eye enough, they won't even have time to look around."
Another, who's recently reached the whopping seven-year mark in her relationship concurs. He says the key to it all is exercise, alone time and loads of hanky panky.
"There's no such thing as an itch if you take each day at a time. It's when the focus is on getting too comfortable and no longer caring about things, that's when trouble starts to brew."
But aside from the comfort factor, how long does passion last? Can you re-ignite it once it's lost? Or does that spell the kiss of death for the relationship?
What do you think? Is there such a thing as an "itch"? Do you find your relationships always end after a few months or years? And what's the best way to get the spice back into the relationship?
Happy Lovin!
The Magic Words: Retail Therapy
I love to shop...Eds wants to buy me a Zipperpal - SHOPAHOLIC...he knows & he understands... This morning I was able to snag a pretty floral blouse from BAYO (I had another one-a palin white cow neck blouse which I bought last Saturday from Shapes). I am investing on clothes since image is one of our selling point for our business. Who wants a raggedy Anne to coordinate her wedding right? So you need to sell yourself with the right packaging...As for me, Im trying keep my self from buying...I'll be waiting for the next moolah from another event..by then I wont feel guilty... Oh by the way, I also snagged sunglasses for Eds at BlueSoda this morning...
I saw this scrapbook when I went to National this morning..they make good ideas for wedding guestbooks or wedding scrapbooks...they come in different colors nd sizes and I was psyched on buying one, only our wedding motif is not available, oh well too sad!
I saw this scrapbook when I went to National this morning..they make good ideas for wedding guestbooks or wedding scrapbooks...they come in different colors nd sizes and I was psyched on buying one, only our wedding motif is not available, oh well too sad!Eksena
I went t the mall this morning to pay some bills at BPI when I decided to grab a quick lunch at McDo. I was quite in a rush so I decided to order just a cheeseburger meal. While I was busy enjoying my rather sinful lunch, I was an unsuspecting witness to a scandal yet to unfold.
I was seated with this guy, probably in his late 20’s. I obviously noticed he was with a companion as I saw two sets of meal on the table and I was correct, a few minutes after he sat, a young woman arrived. They looked to sweet- actually naiilang ako sa sobrang PDA…then after a couple of minutes, another woman came in. She was pretty & glamorous despite the undeniable bump…and she went to a rage..Apparently, she is the wife, the guy is her husband and yes…the other woman was with him-CAUGHT IN THE ACT.
Eksena galore. Binuhusan niya ng sundae na tinaw yung girl, tapos binato nya ng basi yung guy.And wala silang magawa..I guess its because of the kahihiyan…imagine according to the girl 6 months pa lang sila married, she is 3 months pregnant and look at what her husband is up to…palakpakan ang tao inside MCDO which kinda explains Filipino loves the underdog…and in this case, it’s the wife…super buhos ang French fries at hamburger sa mukha nung other woman but the sad part is, when the wife left, the husband went after her…leaving behind this trashed woman alone…
Too bad for her…congratulations sa wife and for the guy, sorry bro coz you are such a sore loser! As for me, Im a wife so I am routing for the wife..go ghurl!
Eksena galore. Binuhusan niya ng sundae na tinaw yung girl, tapos binato nya ng basi yung guy.And wala silang magawa..I guess its because of the kahihiyan…imagine according to the girl 6 months pa lang sila married, she is 3 months pregnant and look at what her husband is up to…palakpakan ang tao inside MCDO which kinda explains Filipino loves the underdog…and in this case, it’s the wife…super buhos ang French fries at hamburger sa mukha nung other woman but the sad part is, when the wife left, the husband went after her…leaving behind this trashed woman alone…Too bad for her…congratulations sa wife and for the guy, sorry bro coz you are such a sore loser! As for me, Im a wife so I am routing for the wife..go ghurl!
I Heart Custom Necklace
I want one of these so bad!
True Love necklace by Lisa Leonard
I came across this cute site by Lisa Leonard who makes custom necklaces and bracelets...
I heart these designs..simple yet personal..Had I seen this before my wedding, Ill definitely get them for my Maid of Honors.
I really plan on getting this...well not now...probably on Decemeber when I get my moolah from the 14 events that we have on December alone! God is good!
Jul 7, 2009
Pork Steak
Here's my take on Pork Steak...well if prices of daily commodities seem to bother you, well here's a meal that will surely satisfy your stomach and your purse...From the pricey beef to a little less cheaper pork...
Ingredients
Cooking oil
Pork meat (liempo or kasim)
Soy Sauce
Kalamansi Juice
Worcestershire Sauce
Onion rings
Procedure:
1. Cut pork meat into strips. You can go with liempo if you want some "taba" or go with pork kasim.
2. Heat cooking oil in a pan.
3. Stir in pork strips until the pinkish color on the meat disappears.
4. Set aside.
5. Pour soy sauce, kalamansi juice, Worcestershire sauce and let the pork strips blend into the marinade.
6. Simmer til tender.
7. Season with sugar and a hint of salt.
8. Stir in onion rings.
* if you want a thicker sauce, stir in half a teaspoon of cornstrach dissolved in hot water.
get more recipes from http://www.pinoycook.net
Ingredients
Cooking oil
Pork meat (liempo or kasim)
Soy Sauce
Kalamansi Juice
Worcestershire Sauce
Onion rings
Procedure:
1. Cut pork meat into strips. You can go with liempo if you want some "taba" or go with pork kasim.
2. Heat cooking oil in a pan.
3. Stir in pork strips until the pinkish color on the meat disappears.
4. Set aside.
5. Pour soy sauce, kalamansi juice, Worcestershire sauce and let the pork strips blend into the marinade.
6. Simmer til tender.
7. Season with sugar and a hint of salt.
8. Stir in onion rings.
* if you want a thicker sauce, stir in half a teaspoon of cornstrach dissolved in hot water.
get more recipes from http://www.pinoycook.net
Chinese Fertility Calendar
Chinese Lunar Pregnancy Prediction Calendar
The Chinese fertility calandar is utilized to predict if the gender of your baby is a boy or girl. This Ancient Chinese Lunar Calandar was created over 4000 years ago and was rediscovered about 700 years ago hiding inside of a royal tomb. The pregnancy calendar.
As well, some couples have even gone as far as to plan the conception of their baby in order to have a boy or girl. Whatever way you choose, it's always a lot of fun in trying to guess the gender of your baby before birth.
If you are interested in determining the gender of your baby, the Chinese fertility calandar might just be able to help!
The pregnancy calendar is divided into two categories, age of the mother and months of conception.
First, find the age of the mother which is usually located in the far left column of the conception chart. The age of the mother at conception* is the number to select, not the age of the mother she is expected to deliver.
Next, find the month when the baby was conceived, located in the top row of the chart. If you are trying to predetermine your baby's gender, plan to conceive in the months that indicate the preferred gender of your baby.
Now find the letter that intersects between the age and month rows that you have selected. If the letter is an F, the Chinese conception calandar predicts the gender of your baby to be female, or a girl. If the letter is an M, the Chinese conception caladar predicts the gender of your baby to be male, or a boy.
This calendar can be used by either putting your age and the month when you conceived. Then if it turns out on the pink side that means you are expecting a girl and if it is on the blue side, it means it will be a boy child. For example – If a mother is 20 years and she conceived in June that means she is expecting a male child.
To predict the gender of a baby, find the age of the mother at conception (left) and the month that conception occured (top). The Chinese pregnancy calandar or conception calandar will give you a prediction about whether the gender of your baby is to be a boy or girl.
Month of Conception
click here for the copy of the calendar
Age of mother at conception*
Example: If the mother is 28 years old at the time of conception and the baby was conceived in June, according to the Chinese Lunar conception calandar, the gender of her baby is predicted to be a girl.
The Chinese fertility calandar is utilized to predict if the gender of your baby is a boy or girl. This Ancient Chinese Lunar Calandar was created over 4000 years ago and was rediscovered about 700 years ago hiding inside of a royal tomb. The pregnancy calendar.
As well, some couples have even gone as far as to plan the conception of their baby in order to have a boy or girl. Whatever way you choose, it's always a lot of fun in trying to guess the gender of your baby before birth.
If you are interested in determining the gender of your baby, the Chinese fertility calandar might just be able to help!
The pregnancy calendar is divided into two categories, age of the mother and months of conception.
First, find the age of the mother which is usually located in the far left column of the conception chart. The age of the mother at conception* is the number to select, not the age of the mother she is expected to deliver.
Next, find the month when the baby was conceived, located in the top row of the chart. If you are trying to predetermine your baby's gender, plan to conceive in the months that indicate the preferred gender of your baby.
Now find the letter that intersects between the age and month rows that you have selected. If the letter is an F, the Chinese conception calandar predicts the gender of your baby to be female, or a girl. If the letter is an M, the Chinese conception caladar predicts the gender of your baby to be male, or a boy.
This calendar can be used by either putting your age and the month when you conceived. Then if it turns out on the pink side that means you are expecting a girl and if it is on the blue side, it means it will be a boy child. For example – If a mother is 20 years and she conceived in June that means she is expecting a male child.
To predict the gender of a baby, find the age of the mother at conception (left) and the month that conception occured (top). The Chinese pregnancy calandar or conception calandar will give you a prediction about whether the gender of your baby is to be a boy or girl.
Month of Conception
click here for the copy of the calendar
Age of mother at conception*
Example: If the mother is 28 years old at the time of conception and the baby was conceived in June, according to the Chinese Lunar conception calandar, the gender of her baby is predicted to be a girl.
(from: http://arielspeaks.com/)
Jul 6, 2009
Planning To Have A Baby....Next Year
Well Eds and I talked about this before...we'll plan on having a baby next year. Eds wants a boy, I want a girl...Actually, the thought excites me knowing how kaasikaso si Eds...
We are not in the rush though it feels like people around us are really expecting it to be soon...hehe.I recently got a call from Mama (my mother in law) asking how things are and if Im pregnant already...hehe
A lot of people even thought that the reason why we were getting married was because Im preganant...excuse me I beg to differ. I promised my lola and my parents that if I ought to marry, it shouldnt be out of any other reason but of LOVE and PREPAREDNESS.
We wanted to be emotionally and financially ready when the baby arrives and at this time, though we are financially ok with our savings and with our new business, we both believe its best that we adjust ourselves first with the married life...
We are not in the rush though it feels like people around us are really expecting it to be soon...hehe.I recently got a call from Mama (my mother in law) asking how things are and if Im pregnant already...hehe
A lot of people even thought that the reason why we were getting married was because Im preganant...excuse me I beg to differ. I promised my lola and my parents that if I ought to marry, it shouldnt be out of any other reason but of LOVE and PREPAREDNESS.
We wanted to be emotionally and financially ready when the baby arrives and at this time, though we are financially ok with our savings and with our new business, we both believe its best that we adjust ourselves first with the married life...
The SSS Challenge!
Eds and I had an early breakfast- skinless longganisa, spicy tuna, fried egg and hot rice when I thought of going to SSS to arrange my papers and update my membership data. So we went to SSS-Bacoor at around 8 am and naloka ako as in-the place is jampacked already.
Since I have the documents already, I didn’t struggle to accomplish one anymore. Eds got me a number-duh 119! So ayun, no choice kungdi pumila…at first akala ko may silbi yung number, yun nman pala wala…all these people are in line regardless of their number…kaloka diba? anyway, medyo tolerable nman ang waiting time…asar lang ang taong sumisingit at kawalan ng sistema sa government agencies. What's supposed to be a no-brainer procedure ends up really difficult all because walang sistema at walang disiplina...hay.
As for me, I finished at around 9:30. I simply presented E4 (form for member's data amendment) along with my original copy of marriage certificate and its photocopy and was asked to have a new ID a month after...
so there...finally!
Since I have the documents already, I didn’t struggle to accomplish one anymore. Eds got me a number-duh 119! So ayun, no choice kungdi pumila…at first akala ko may silbi yung number, yun nman pala wala…all these people are in line regardless of their number…kaloka diba? anyway, medyo tolerable nman ang waiting time…asar lang ang taong sumisingit at kawalan ng sistema sa government agencies. What's supposed to be a no-brainer procedure ends up really difficult all because walang sistema at walang disiplina...hay.
As for me, I finished at around 9:30. I simply presented E4 (form for member's data amendment) along with my original copy of marriage certificate and its photocopy and was asked to have a new ID a month after...
so there...finally!
Jul 5, 2009
Sundays with the Family
We were up early this morning as it became a habit to bring Nanay to CCP every Sunday morning for some leisure time. My lola is now 77 and I want her to enjoy and relax… Lately she has been coughing a lot and seems to lose appetite.I spent my 24 years with her as I was a laki sa lola (much like Eds) and only left her care when I was already 24.Kaya nga kahit 12 na ako naka uwi the other night from an event, di pwedeng di ko sasamahan ang nanay!
We left at around 5am and reached CCP at 6am…she enjoyed strolling around and sitting by while watching my aunt as she gyrated for some aerobic moves.
After that, Eds and I along with our cousin Gel went to the local Starbucks for some coffee then Eds bought me a Starbucks go-green! Tumbler…and an early lunch at Aristocrat!
Saturday Specials
I had my third wedding this Saturday as a wedding coordinator and as usual I was assigned to the bride (which I love doing by the way...)it was a very beautiful garden wedding at Sonya's and a very organized one (siyempre kami pa!) despite the sudden increase of wedding guests, we managed the event ever so smoothly. Eds and my brother fetch me at around 10:30pm and the three of us headed to a late foodtrip.When I went home, I saw this box with my name on it-it was from one of my favorite wedding supplier-FOTOBREW! They sent our orders for the Fotomagnets. You see, Eds and I have been very busy that we forgot to write some THANK YOU notes.So to make up for it, we decided to have the pics of our entourage printed in fotomagnets with the word THANK YOU on it...ang cute nila...parang ayoko ipamigay...joke...and since we only had several pics for enturage, the rest of the 30pcs of magnets were all our pictures (yup, greedy noh?) hehe...along with the magnets is the personalized background that we had i our onsite photobooth which Alvin so kindly gave to us for free...
Jul 3, 2009
What's With 8?
8 Things I'm looking Forward To:
♥ Our trip to Kuala Lumpur on October
♥ Moving in(hopefully soon)
♥ Getting our Fotobrew "Thank You" magnet
♥ More weddings to cordinate!
♥ My birthday next month...
♥ Decorating our nest!
♥ Buying appliances for our nest
♥ Honorarium payment
8 Things I Did Yesterday:
♥ Went to work
♥ Update my To-do list at work and worked on it.
♥ Search for my advisory class' presentation
♥ Took home some work
♥ Ate rellenong bangus and embutido
♥ Checked e-mails
♥ Watched tv
♥ Blog
8 Things I Wish I Could Do:
♥ Shop til I drop
♥ Go to Macau with my family
♥ Keep our wedsite updated
♥ Go to Japan...
♥ Resign..hehe
♥ Shift career
♥ Earn bigger than what I'm earning now
♥ Get photography lessons
8 TV Shows I Watch:
♥ Mythbusters
♥ TV patrol news
♥ HBO
♥ Ancient Megastructure
♥ By All Means
♥ SNN
♥ AXN TV Series
♥ Discovery Channel
♥ Our trip to Kuala Lumpur on October
♥ Moving in(hopefully soon)
♥ Getting our Fotobrew "Thank You" magnet
♥ More weddings to cordinate!
♥ My birthday next month...
♥ Decorating our nest!
♥ Buying appliances for our nest
♥ Honorarium payment
8 Things I Did Yesterday:
♥ Went to work
♥ Update my To-do list at work and worked on it.
♥ Search for my advisory class' presentation
♥ Took home some work
♥ Ate rellenong bangus and embutido
♥ Checked e-mails
♥ Watched tv
♥ Blog
8 Things I Wish I Could Do:
♥ Shop til I drop
♥ Go to Macau with my family
♥ Keep our wedsite updated
♥ Go to Japan...
♥ Resign..hehe
♥ Shift career
♥ Earn bigger than what I'm earning now
♥ Get photography lessons
8 TV Shows I Watch:
♥ Mythbusters
♥ TV patrol news
♥ HBO
♥ Ancient Megastructure
♥ By All Means
♥ SNN
♥ AXN TV Series
♥ Discovery Channel
Replica of Our Precious
I got a package this morning from V-gems.
Yes, its our wedding ring replica which I made them copy for our daily use...
I hate it kasi when chalkdust gets into the stone setting of my wedding ring and for Eds naman, well its more of the safety issue. He goes to work with an 8pm-6am daily shift and I thought na medyo takaw tingin yung wedding ring beacuse of the stones in it-10!
I am very delighted with the craftsmanship...super gayang gaya...I barely get to notice which one is our wedding ring...here's a pic...
Post a comment if you wanna get V-gems contact info!
Yes, its our wedding ring replica which I made them copy for our daily use...
I hate it kasi when chalkdust gets into the stone setting of my wedding ring and for Eds naman, well its more of the safety issue. He goes to work with an 8pm-6am daily shift and I thought na medyo takaw tingin yung wedding ring beacuse of the stones in it-10!
I am very delighted with the craftsmanship...super gayang gaya...I barely get to notice which one is our wedding ring...here's a pic...
Post a comment if you wanna get V-gems contact info!
LSS!
Jul 2, 2009
MARRIAGE
FORWARDED MESSAGE:
When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.
Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly.
She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Dew. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!
With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company.
She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Dew so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was
actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.
The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Dew.
When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.
In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normala life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.
This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.
She requested that everyday for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.
I told Dew about my wife's divorce conditions. She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.
My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't
tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.
On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I
wondered what I had done to her.
On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me.
On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Dew about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday
workout made me stronger.
She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.
Suddenly it hit me... she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.
Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mum out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closerand hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.
But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life
lacked intimacy.
I drove to office... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind... I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I do not want the divorce anymore.
She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Dew, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other any more. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart.
Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away.
At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.
The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank, blah..blah.. blah. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be
your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!
If you don't share this, nothing will happen to you.
If you do, you just might save a marriage.
1 Corinthians 13
Love
1If I speak in the tongues[a] of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 2If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. 3If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames,[b] but have not love, I gain nothing.
4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
8Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 9For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. 11When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. 12Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.
13And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.
Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly.
She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Dew. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!
With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company.
She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Dew so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was
actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.
The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Dew.
When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.
In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normala life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.
This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.
She requested that everyday for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.
I told Dew about my wife's divorce conditions. She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.
My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't
tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.
On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I
wondered what I had done to her.
On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me.
On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Dew about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday
workout made me stronger.
She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.
Suddenly it hit me... she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.
Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mum out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closerand hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.
But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life
lacked intimacy.
I drove to office... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind... I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I do not want the divorce anymore.
She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Dew, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other any more. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart.
Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away.
At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.
The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank, blah..blah.. blah. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be
your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!
If you don't share this, nothing will happen to you.
If you do, you just might save a marriage.
1 Corinthians 13
Love
1If I speak in the tongues[a] of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 2If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. 3If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames,[b] but have not love, I gain nothing.
4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
8Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 9For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. 11When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. 12Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.
13And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
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