Eds and I loved our wedding bands so much…not only because its symbolizes the bond between us as man and wife but laso because of its elegant design. Lately we thought of having our rings' replicas made. When I attended to our booth yesterday at Festivall Supermall for the 2nd Southern Bridal Fair, we were placed alonside V-GEM Jewelry, who makes customized engagement rings and wedding bands. I found out that I could have our "everyday wedding ring" made. I had them copy our wedding ring but had them in silver and Russian Diamonds for everyday use only as Eds is often in night shift and I pften meet clients after office hours making it quite unsafe to wear with all the stones sparkling (eh Pinoy pa, makakita lang na makinang).What's good is that we got our replica rings in a very low price...really, I can't even believe it at first. I just paid the downpayment and the rest will have to be deposited to their account and they will have it shipped! Galing! I'm so excited...
May 31, 2009
May 29, 2009
Caught between career and married life
Whew… I never thought that making decisions would be one of the many few tasks I’ll be handling this soon. I was given the opportunity to tie-up with an already established events planning company (which I got as my wedding OTD). I know opportunity knocks only once but in a newlywed’s world, didn’t it knock too soon?
Wind Beneath My Wings…I must admit I was having second thoughts but come to think of it “lakasan lang ng loob” . I discussed it with Eds and I let him read the business proposal. Im glad God blessed me with a very supportive husband, he said “yes” without thinking twice but reminded me to look after my health and never to skip any meal…
I am giving myself two years…I think that would be enough…at least nagawa ko ang gs2 ko, may extra income pa kme but after two years, stop na me.
Wind Beneath My Wings…I must admit I was having second thoughts but come to think of it “lakasan lang ng loob” . I discussed it with Eds and I let him read the business proposal. Im glad God blessed me with a very supportive husband, he said “yes” without thinking twice but reminded me to look after my health and never to skip any meal…
I am giving myself two years…I think that would be enough…at least nagawa ko ang gs2 ko, may extra income pa kme but after two years, stop na me.
By then siguro ok na ang lahat… I have a big day ahead of me-nope not a wedding but a bridal fair. This time I will in a bridal fair not as a bride but as a wedding coordinator.
May 28, 2009
Teasers...
Here are two wedding pics teasers...these pics were still raw (unedited)...Ill be posting some more..
Fear vs. Self-Trust
So how does fear work it's magic? It reminds us of all the reasons why we shouldn?t marry the one we're with. And how do we combat this reasoning? Herein lies what I'll present as a simple answer, but actually requires hours and hours, if not years and years, of emotional work and discipline: we connect with that quiet space inside ourselves that knows the truth, that knows that we are with the right man, that knows that this is the right decision at this time in our lives.
Many, if not most, of you, through your emails to me and your posts on the message board, have expressed that you have a deep knowing that you?re with the right person. You know that you share the same values about family, children, religion, time. You communicate well enough. (We're not going for perfect here! I know, most of you are also perfectionists; it goes along with the conscious bride personality profile.) You generally get along well most of the time. You have fun together. At the core, you are good friends. Many of you have said to me, "I couldn't have found a better partner. I know he's the right one for me."
And then fear creeps in. And that's the time to find a quiet space and come back to yourself, back to your essence. What are the ways that you come to back to self? Is it through writing and journaling? Is it through talking on the phone to your best friend or sister or mother? Is it in nature, sitting under a tree and starting out at the trees and sky? How about exercise going for a run or taking a great yoga class? When you sense that fear is about to overwhelm you, stop whatever you're doing and take a few minutes sometimes it only takes five minutes to come back to yourself. It's in that quiet space that you remember your truth. It?s in the stillness of our beings, the deep place of soul, that we know all we need to know. Here is where we find trust. Here is where we find our answers.
It's not easy to rest in that place of self-trust. We live in a culture where trust in ourselves in our unique rhythms and our deepest knowings has been stamped out of us almost from the time we?re born. We are taught, often by well-meaning and very loving parents, to place the nucleus of our trust in other people, giving them the authority to know what?s best for us. This is a grave disservice, and we often spend the rest of our lives trying to figure out how to restore self-trust. And then we're faced with the biggest decision of our lives who and when to marry and we're paralyzed. How are we supposed to know that this is right? What if I make a mistake? What if? what if? what ? Okay. Stop. Come back to self. Find that quiet place within. Remember your truth. Restore one cell of self-trust at a time, that place inside that knows very clearly: is it a YES or a NO? This is your North Star. This is your answer. You may have to practice this discipline ten, twenty time a day. As I said, fear is strong and fear is on a mission. But the more you do it, the less power fear will hold. Essentially your saying to fear, "I'm choosing not to believe you anymore. I'm taking action that will reduce your hold on my psyche." It's a spiritual discipline, one that will serve you for the rest of your life.
Many, if not most, of you, through your emails to me and your posts on the message board, have expressed that you have a deep knowing that you?re with the right person. You know that you share the same values about family, children, religion, time. You communicate well enough. (We're not going for perfect here! I know, most of you are also perfectionists; it goes along with the conscious bride personality profile.) You generally get along well most of the time. You have fun together. At the core, you are good friends. Many of you have said to me, "I couldn't have found a better partner. I know he's the right one for me."
And then fear creeps in. And that's the time to find a quiet space and come back to yourself, back to your essence. What are the ways that you come to back to self? Is it through writing and journaling? Is it through talking on the phone to your best friend or sister or mother? Is it in nature, sitting under a tree and starting out at the trees and sky? How about exercise going for a run or taking a great yoga class? When you sense that fear is about to overwhelm you, stop whatever you're doing and take a few minutes sometimes it only takes five minutes to come back to yourself. It's in that quiet space that you remember your truth. It?s in the stillness of our beings, the deep place of soul, that we know all we need to know. Here is where we find trust. Here is where we find our answers.
It's not easy to rest in that place of self-trust. We live in a culture where trust in ourselves in our unique rhythms and our deepest knowings has been stamped out of us almost from the time we?re born. We are taught, often by well-meaning and very loving parents, to place the nucleus of our trust in other people, giving them the authority to know what?s best for us. This is a grave disservice, and we often spend the rest of our lives trying to figure out how to restore self-trust. And then we're faced with the biggest decision of our lives who and when to marry and we're paralyzed. How are we supposed to know that this is right? What if I make a mistake? What if? what if? what ? Okay. Stop. Come back to self. Find that quiet place within. Remember your truth. Restore one cell of self-trust at a time, that place inside that knows very clearly: is it a YES or a NO? This is your North Star. This is your answer. You may have to practice this discipline ten, twenty time a day. As I said, fear is strong and fear is on a mission. But the more you do it, the less power fear will hold. Essentially your saying to fear, "I'm choosing not to believe you anymore. I'm taking action that will reduce your hold on my psyche." It's a spiritual discipline, one that will serve you for the rest of your life.
(taken from: The Conscious Bride)
Transitions
An Overview of Transitions
Whether moving to a new city or having a baby, changing careers or going through a divorce, transitions are a part of life. While in the midst of change, even if the change is toward something joyous and positive like a wedding or moving into your dream house, it is normal and healthy to feel:
grief/heartbreak
confused
angry/enraged
disoriented
scared/terrified
numb
What most people lack around transitions is basic information that would help them to contextualize these emotions, make sense of them, and move through them effectively. Culturally, we focus on the externals of a transition planning a wedding, buying the car seat, packing the boxes to the exclusion of the inner realm. While the externals are important, when we bypass working consciously with the emotions activated during transition, we decrease our chances of adjusting to the new life as cleanly and gracefully as possible. This can have long-term negative consequences not only during the transition at hand but for our lives in general.
Every transition involves passing through three phases:
Letting Go During which we separate from the old life, grieve the losses, express and explore fears and expectations about the new life.
In-between During which we¹re in the liminal (limbo) zone of transition detached from the old life but not yet established in the new one a highly uncomfortable place characterized by feeling numb, disoriented, depressed, and out of control.
Rebirth In which we embrace the new life and identity and feel confident, comfortable, and excited about the possibilities of growth that a new beginning holds.
Everyone goes through multiple life changes each year that, with simple information and consciousness, could be transformed from stressful and depleting events to life-affirming and transformational events. We habitually think of change as "hard" or "negative", but what most people fail to recognize is that embedded in these predictable life-cycle occurrences are portals that invite us to spiral into a deeper layer of our personal growth. Instead of powering through transitions as quickly as possible, we would benefit greatly by embracing them as the gifts that they are.
From a spiritual perspective, every transition is an opportunity for growth. As we learn how to let go into the 'groundlessness' that defines the in-between stage of transition between the end of the old life and beginning of the new, we move into a more effortless alignment with life. Life is ever-changing, and when we approach transitions consciously and with the intention of growth, we eventually learn how to accept this truth with grace.
This is not an easy task. Transitions require no less than the willingness to die (symbolically), to sit in the uncomfortable void, and to be reborn. Who would willingly embrace this task? For some of us, we have no choice. Transitions seem to pull us into the underworld and create such fear, pain, confusion, and disorientation that we must seek help. While in the throes of the challenge, this may seem unfair and we may be plagued with questions like, "Why do others seem so blissfully happy during their engagement when my joy is accompanied by a sense of loss? Why do others move to a new city effortlessly when I feel terrified? How come she was able to re-marry so easily after her divorce when my heart is broken and I still have dreams about my ex?"
Yet when we finally emerge from the pain, we see that the struggle was well worth it. For to enter into the death-void-rebirth cycle is to embark on the heroine¹s journey. And when the heroine returns from her voyage, she carries the boons‹or jewels‹of her travels. One of the great boons is that she knows, at a deeper layer of consciousness, that there can be no light without entering the darkness, and that with each descent into her darkness, the light shines ever more brightly. She knows that next time she is pulled into the darkness‹which most likely will occur in the midst of her next major transition‹she will be able to navigate the journey more gracefully. She trusts that, even as she cries and rages, she is exactly where she needs to be.
Whether moving to a new city or having a baby, changing careers or going through a divorce, transitions are a part of life. While in the midst of change, even if the change is toward something joyous and positive like a wedding or moving into your dream house, it is normal and healthy to feel:
grief/heartbreak
confused
angry/enraged
disoriented
scared/terrified
numb
What most people lack around transitions is basic information that would help them to contextualize these emotions, make sense of them, and move through them effectively. Culturally, we focus on the externals of a transition planning a wedding, buying the car seat, packing the boxes to the exclusion of the inner realm. While the externals are important, when we bypass working consciously with the emotions activated during transition, we decrease our chances of adjusting to the new life as cleanly and gracefully as possible. This can have long-term negative consequences not only during the transition at hand but for our lives in general.
Every transition involves passing through three phases:
Letting Go During which we separate from the old life, grieve the losses, express and explore fears and expectations about the new life.
In-between During which we¹re in the liminal (limbo) zone of transition detached from the old life but not yet established in the new one a highly uncomfortable place characterized by feeling numb, disoriented, depressed, and out of control.
Rebirth In which we embrace the new life and identity and feel confident, comfortable, and excited about the possibilities of growth that a new beginning holds.
Everyone goes through multiple life changes each year that, with simple information and consciousness, could be transformed from stressful and depleting events to life-affirming and transformational events. We habitually think of change as "hard" or "negative", but what most people fail to recognize is that embedded in these predictable life-cycle occurrences are portals that invite us to spiral into a deeper layer of our personal growth. Instead of powering through transitions as quickly as possible, we would benefit greatly by embracing them as the gifts that they are.
From a spiritual perspective, every transition is an opportunity for growth. As we learn how to let go into the 'groundlessness' that defines the in-between stage of transition between the end of the old life and beginning of the new, we move into a more effortless alignment with life. Life is ever-changing, and when we approach transitions consciously and with the intention of growth, we eventually learn how to accept this truth with grace.
This is not an easy task. Transitions require no less than the willingness to die (symbolically), to sit in the uncomfortable void, and to be reborn. Who would willingly embrace this task? For some of us, we have no choice. Transitions seem to pull us into the underworld and create such fear, pain, confusion, and disorientation that we must seek help. While in the throes of the challenge, this may seem unfair and we may be plagued with questions like, "Why do others seem so blissfully happy during their engagement when my joy is accompanied by a sense of loss? Why do others move to a new city effortlessly when I feel terrified? How come she was able to re-marry so easily after her divorce when my heart is broken and I still have dreams about my ex?"
Yet when we finally emerge from the pain, we see that the struggle was well worth it. For to enter into the death-void-rebirth cycle is to embark on the heroine¹s journey. And when the heroine returns from her voyage, she carries the boons‹or jewels‹of her travels. One of the great boons is that she knows, at a deeper layer of consciousness, that there can be no light without entering the darkness, and that with each descent into her darkness, the light shines ever more brightly. She knows that next time she is pulled into the darkness‹which most likely will occur in the midst of her next major transition‹she will be able to navigate the journey more gracefully. She trusts that, even as she cries and rages, she is exactly where she needs to be.
(taken from the book which I brought a week before the wedding, The Conscious Bride)
May 27, 2009
Keep Them Coming...
Info#1
Im so excited...I jus got a text message from Sir Ruel (proprietor and head photographer of Blessing Photography) saying that the pictures are ready for choosing, the same goes for the album details...yipee. Eds and I will be dropping by their shop this afternoon.
Info #2
I'll be meeting with Lovella today for our prospective tie-up with events planning business which was supposed to be yesterday but then again we went out with my inlaws as they will be leaving soon for UAE again...
Im so excited...I jus got a text message from Sir Ruel (proprietor and head photographer of Blessing Photography) saying that the pictures are ready for choosing, the same goes for the album details...yipee. Eds and I will be dropping by their shop this afternoon.
Info #2
I'll be meeting with Lovella today for our prospective tie-up with events planning business which was supposed to be yesterday but then again we went out with my inlaws as they will be leaving soon for UAE again...
May 26, 2009
Putting Your SPOUSE in First Place
By entering into marriage, we take a great risk. We place our very selves — our own intimacy—into the hands of another, who, like we, is beset with defects.
Marriage, however, is a vocation from God, our specific pathway to Heaven. It’s the preeminent way we are meant to love and serve Him on this earth. Its purpose goes beyond our capabilities: to nurture and protect human love, and to unleash it on the world. God always makes up the difference.
But this noble purpose has to be fulfilled in the chaos and contradictions of everyday life — many obstacles are in our way.
Therefore, love for one’s spouse has to be shown in tangible, practical ways.
Putting Your Wife in First Place
We often hear of women’s “needs”. One of your wife’s greatest needs is for you to be her partner and teammate, as opposed to the roles you may be more inclined to fill: coach, referee, babysitter or “temp”.
Compliment your wife in person and behind her back. Let her know with very specific and sincere examples how much you admire her and her work in the home. Let others know it, too, whether in her presence (such as at social gatherings) or outside it (such as at work). You want to make it apparent to her that you notice and appreciate her efforts, and apparent to others that “This man really loves his wife!”
Don’t teach your wife to nag or sulk. Yes, it’s true. You do this when you don’t pay undivided attention to her words and ideas. A woman detests having to force her way into her husband’s mind and heart, and when faced with it, she will likely keep things bottled up until she has to explode. Unthinking males refer to this as “nagging”. Therefore, recognize that TV, newspapers, magazines, mail, hobbies, etc. are your mortal enemies when you get home from work. Avoid them, go straight to your wife, and with eye-to-eye contact, listen to her tell you how her day has gone. Better yet, take the initiative and ask her how she’s doing at least once a week — and give her all the time and attention she needs to tell you.
Give your wife a chance to listen to YOU. It’s equally important that you overcome your tiredness and emotional reticence to give your wife a regular peek into your mind and heart—joys, sorrows, fears, professional triumphs and failures, hobbies that captivate you, etc.
Safeguard your marriage from the scourge of “workaholism” or “professionalitis” through detachment from your work. Men are less naturally inclined than women to live “unity of life”, that is, to see all aspects of their lives as fitting together in an integrated whole. Instead, they are much more likely to “compartmentalize” their lives, even to the point of seeing a kind of opposition of work and family life. When this is the case, work usually wins!
You have to struggle, therefore, to detach yourself from your work and abandon the consequences into God’s hands. This struggle should include leaving work at a fixed and reasonable time (absent unusual circumstances), so as not to steal evening time from your wife; limiting work on weekends to a minimum; keeping a picture of your wife in your line of sight at work to remind you of her frequently during the day; and even taking the plunge and changing jobs if, after all your efforts, the one you have seriously interferes with family life. Remember: your wife and any one of your children are far more important than your job.
Don’t try to explain your wife’s hurts—what she really needs are your understanding and empathy. Men are hardwired to analyze things and look for solutions. If you approach a distraught woman’s problems as if they were a construction project, however, your hardwiring will short circuit. You will not be engaging with your wife personally, and that’s what she really is after, not solutions. You also will run the great risk of appearing to trivialize her concerns, which is extremely demoralizing to her.
Help with menial tasks around the house. It can be a form of pride to think that these jobs are beneath you. One helpful and challenging suggestion is to struggle hard to perform the task that either you or your wife detests the most. Doing either one will please her greatly.
Prefer to be with her when you’re out at social events. This can be a little challenging, given the natural tendency of men and women to hang out with members of their own genders at parties, etc. However, being separated from your bride for an extended period of time should be the exception rather than the rule. Let her (and the others) see that she is the one you want at your side.
Remember: “One hour spent making your wife happy is worth 100 hours of lecturing the kids.”
Putting Your Husband in First Place
Don’t expect him to be perfect. It’s to be hoped that the above points will have reminded him that he’s not perfect, and that he needs to work hard to fulfill his commitment of love in marriage. Make sure you let him know, in concrete ways, that you deeply appreciate his struggle — it’s very important to a man that his best and honest efforts are treasured.
Don’t expect him to be like a woman. He thinks, acts and reacts differently than you do, and believe it or not, this is a good thing! Don’t fall for the contemporary caricature of men as testosterone-poisoned little boys in adult bodies who are incapable of commitment, personal relationships or any other useful societal purpose. His maleness is there for you as a complement to your femininity — in other words, as a strength for you.
For example, as author James Stenson points out, a wife is more likely to view a spat between siblings as a lack of charity, focused as she is on family love and harmony: “It’s unkind to take your brother’s toy without his permission!” A father, however, with the male focus on justice rather than charity, will say, “You have no right to take that toy without permission — it’s unfair!” The great effect of this is that husband and wife will have educated their children in both justice and charity; they will also learn these virtues from each other as time goes on!
Lavish tenderness and care on your husband. There is little that matters more to a married man than the certainty of his wife’s deep affection and care for him. It’s his fixed point amid the chaotic demands of his professional life. You will express this best not by doing occasional, extraordinary things, but by unrelenting acts of simple tenderness on a regular basis. Examples: take his arm when you’re out walking, fix his favorite meal (even if you personally dislike it), dress and wear your hair in the ways that are most attractive to him, and smile, even when you least feel
like it!
Encourage him to foster friendships outside the home, and give him the time and space to do so. Although you are your husband’s best friend, you must realize that true friendship is sorely lacking among working men in this culture. Spending quality time with good friends will give your husband an opportunity to be of service to them, will enrich him personally, and will set a great example to his sons of the importance and attractiveness of friendship.
Have faith in his devotion to you, even when he is consumed with legitimate professional concerns and seems oblivious to your needs. This is one of the most challenging tests for an overwhelmed wife who doesn’t think she is getting enough help or attention from her husband. Should you be that “nag”, or should you hunker down and suffer in silence? There’s no easy answer to this, but one suggestion is that, during such times, you limit your requests for help to the “bare necessities” that will keep you going, and tell your husband with a weak smile that he will have to resuscitate you fully as soon as he can.
Conclusion: if each of you takes these matters to heart, you will be loving your spouse with his or her defects, and struggling against your own defects. Strangely enough, these are the most romantic things you can do for your spouse, because you will be living love where it really counts: in the ordinary things, day by day by day.
Marriage, however, is a vocation from God, our specific pathway to Heaven. It’s the preeminent way we are meant to love and serve Him on this earth. Its purpose goes beyond our capabilities: to nurture and protect human love, and to unleash it on the world. God always makes up the difference.
But this noble purpose has to be fulfilled in the chaos and contradictions of everyday life — many obstacles are in our way.
Therefore, love for one’s spouse has to be shown in tangible, practical ways.
Putting Your Wife in First Place
We often hear of women’s “needs”. One of your wife’s greatest needs is for you to be her partner and teammate, as opposed to the roles you may be more inclined to fill: coach, referee, babysitter or “temp”.
Compliment your wife in person and behind her back. Let her know with very specific and sincere examples how much you admire her and her work in the home. Let others know it, too, whether in her presence (such as at social gatherings) or outside it (such as at work). You want to make it apparent to her that you notice and appreciate her efforts, and apparent to others that “This man really loves his wife!”
Don’t teach your wife to nag or sulk. Yes, it’s true. You do this when you don’t pay undivided attention to her words and ideas. A woman detests having to force her way into her husband’s mind and heart, and when faced with it, she will likely keep things bottled up until she has to explode. Unthinking males refer to this as “nagging”. Therefore, recognize that TV, newspapers, magazines, mail, hobbies, etc. are your mortal enemies when you get home from work. Avoid them, go straight to your wife, and with eye-to-eye contact, listen to her tell you how her day has gone. Better yet, take the initiative and ask her how she’s doing at least once a week — and give her all the time and attention she needs to tell you.
Give your wife a chance to listen to YOU. It’s equally important that you overcome your tiredness and emotional reticence to give your wife a regular peek into your mind and heart—joys, sorrows, fears, professional triumphs and failures, hobbies that captivate you, etc.
Safeguard your marriage from the scourge of “workaholism” or “professionalitis” through detachment from your work. Men are less naturally inclined than women to live “unity of life”, that is, to see all aspects of their lives as fitting together in an integrated whole. Instead, they are much more likely to “compartmentalize” their lives, even to the point of seeing a kind of opposition of work and family life. When this is the case, work usually wins!
You have to struggle, therefore, to detach yourself from your work and abandon the consequences into God’s hands. This struggle should include leaving work at a fixed and reasonable time (absent unusual circumstances), so as not to steal evening time from your wife; limiting work on weekends to a minimum; keeping a picture of your wife in your line of sight at work to remind you of her frequently during the day; and even taking the plunge and changing jobs if, after all your efforts, the one you have seriously interferes with family life. Remember: your wife and any one of your children are far more important than your job.
Don’t try to explain your wife’s hurts—what she really needs are your understanding and empathy. Men are hardwired to analyze things and look for solutions. If you approach a distraught woman’s problems as if they were a construction project, however, your hardwiring will short circuit. You will not be engaging with your wife personally, and that’s what she really is after, not solutions. You also will run the great risk of appearing to trivialize her concerns, which is extremely demoralizing to her.
Help with menial tasks around the house. It can be a form of pride to think that these jobs are beneath you. One helpful and challenging suggestion is to struggle hard to perform the task that either you or your wife detests the most. Doing either one will please her greatly.
Prefer to be with her when you’re out at social events. This can be a little challenging, given the natural tendency of men and women to hang out with members of their own genders at parties, etc. However, being separated from your bride for an extended period of time should be the exception rather than the rule. Let her (and the others) see that she is the one you want at your side.
Remember: “One hour spent making your wife happy is worth 100 hours of lecturing the kids.”
Putting Your Husband in First Place
Don’t expect him to be perfect. It’s to be hoped that the above points will have reminded him that he’s not perfect, and that he needs to work hard to fulfill his commitment of love in marriage. Make sure you let him know, in concrete ways, that you deeply appreciate his struggle — it’s very important to a man that his best and honest efforts are treasured.
Don’t expect him to be like a woman. He thinks, acts and reacts differently than you do, and believe it or not, this is a good thing! Don’t fall for the contemporary caricature of men as testosterone-poisoned little boys in adult bodies who are incapable of commitment, personal relationships or any other useful societal purpose. His maleness is there for you as a complement to your femininity — in other words, as a strength for you.
For example, as author James Stenson points out, a wife is more likely to view a spat between siblings as a lack of charity, focused as she is on family love and harmony: “It’s unkind to take your brother’s toy without his permission!” A father, however, with the male focus on justice rather than charity, will say, “You have no right to take that toy without permission — it’s unfair!” The great effect of this is that husband and wife will have educated their children in both justice and charity; they will also learn these virtues from each other as time goes on!
Lavish tenderness and care on your husband. There is little that matters more to a married man than the certainty of his wife’s deep affection and care for him. It’s his fixed point amid the chaotic demands of his professional life. You will express this best not by doing occasional, extraordinary things, but by unrelenting acts of simple tenderness on a regular basis. Examples: take his arm when you’re out walking, fix his favorite meal (even if you personally dislike it), dress and wear your hair in the ways that are most attractive to him, and smile, even when you least feel
like it!
Encourage him to foster friendships outside the home, and give him the time and space to do so. Although you are your husband’s best friend, you must realize that true friendship is sorely lacking among working men in this culture. Spending quality time with good friends will give your husband an opportunity to be of service to them, will enrich him personally, and will set a great example to his sons of the importance and attractiveness of friendship.
Have faith in his devotion to you, even when he is consumed with legitimate professional concerns and seems oblivious to your needs. This is one of the most challenging tests for an overwhelmed wife who doesn’t think she is getting enough help or attention from her husband. Should you be that “nag”, or should you hunker down and suffer in silence? There’s no easy answer to this, but one suggestion is that, during such times, you limit your requests for help to the “bare necessities” that will keep you going, and tell your husband with a weak smile that he will have to resuscitate you fully as soon as he can.
Conclusion: if each of you takes these matters to heart, you will be loving your spouse with his or her defects, and struggling against your own defects. Strangely enough, these are the most romantic things you can do for your spouse, because you will be living love where it really counts: in the ordinary things, day by day by day.
Some Pics from ShampooShots Studio...
We got their services absolutely FREE...galing di ba? Lovella (our wedding coordinator) happens to be the friend of Nikon aka Ichigeki Hissatsu (the photographer behind these lovely shots) and Love asked my permission if she can bring him along for back up...absolutely free po...super thanks...
Making it legal...
2 of our 4 FlowerGirls...
A pose before entering the reception...
Blessings...
Our glorious cake...
Sneak Peak...
The bride and the soon-to-be-bride...(and my MOH din...)
Mom & Dad...
Newlyweds...
My MOH and Sister-in-law...
Newlyweds...
Me, Eds and Mama.
One ,big happy "Burgundy" family...
Rewind....
Hay,it’s been over a week now but i still can’t stop thinking of the memories from our wedding let me share some of them to you...
a. the arrival of my in-laws two weeks before our wedding day
b. the bonding/shopping time of Mommy and Mama Cora.
c. the visitation to the Monasterio de Sta. Clara a week before the wedding
d. my cousin almost forgetting the rings!
e. my brother almost forgetting his speech
f. Eds forgetting some of the steps of our first dance
g. the grand opening of the door effect...
h. my wedding march – it put me to tears, really....Looking Through the Eyes of Love by Totally Mesmerized
a. the arrival of my in-laws two weeks before our wedding day
b. the bonding/shopping time of Mommy and Mama Cora.
c. the visitation to the Monasterio de Sta. Clara a week before the wedding
d. my cousin almost forgetting the rings!
e. my brother almost forgetting his speech
f. Eds forgetting some of the steps of our first dance
g. the grand opening of the door effect...
h. my wedding march – it put me to tears, really....Looking Through the Eyes of Love by Totally Mesmerized
*sana di napansin that I almost tripped...hehe...well almost lang naman!
i. the very solemn mass and the very wonderful homily by Fr. Sharkey
j. our exchange of vows
k. the Lead Me Lord song and "Lucky"
l. my lovely secondary veil
m. the kiss of course!
n. our presentation as husband and wife –
o. the lovely set-up of the church (free ang drapes; the lovely flowers by Ms. Mayra)
p. everyone raved about the food!
q. the speeches – my mom's speech made everyone cry while Papa Ed's speech made the crowd smile with his segue; my hikbi during my thank you speech...
r. our highschool friends shouting “CONGRATULATIONS AND BEST WISHES!!”
s. our Chocolate Fountain and Frupcakes which everyone enjoyed...
t. the bachelor & the bachelorette's games- my cousin Jen (also my MOH) won the bouquet while Julian (our highschool friend) won the garter; sayang di si Oliver ang nanalo (jen's fiance)
u. the gifts! who wouldnt love to receive gifts!
we got coffee maker, gas stove, wok set, oven toaster, griller, breakfast maker, bath towels in all hues...katuwa!
*we even got a set of baby clothes pampabwenas daw yun!
v. the moneterail gifts!! hahahah! we didn’t really expect that we’d receive any money but we’re really thankful as it helped us pay the incidentals incurred during the reception.All the while I thought walang makakapansin ng wishing well namin, when I saw it, wow puno na! Galing.
i. the very solemn mass and the very wonderful homily by Fr. Sharkey
j. our exchange of vows
k. the Lead Me Lord song and "Lucky"
l. my lovely secondary veil
m. the kiss of course!
n. our presentation as husband and wife –
o. the lovely set-up of the church (free ang drapes; the lovely flowers by Ms. Mayra)
p. everyone raved about the food!
q. the speeches – my mom's speech made everyone cry while Papa Ed's speech made the crowd smile with his segue; my hikbi during my thank you speech...
r. our highschool friends shouting “CONGRATULATIONS AND BEST WISHES!!”
s. our Chocolate Fountain and Frupcakes which everyone enjoyed...
t. the bachelor & the bachelorette's games- my cousin Jen (also my MOH) won the bouquet while Julian (our highschool friend) won the garter; sayang di si Oliver ang nanalo (jen's fiance)
u. the gifts! who wouldnt love to receive gifts!
we got coffee maker, gas stove, wok set, oven toaster, griller, breakfast maker, bath towels in all hues...katuwa!
*we even got a set of baby clothes pampabwenas daw yun!
v. the moneterail gifts!! hahahah! we didn’t really expect that we’d receive any money but we’re really thankful as it helped us pay the incidentals incurred during the reception.All the while I thought walang makakapansin ng wishing well namin, when I saw it, wow puno na! Galing.
They came in different currencies pa...British Pound, US Dollars...
w. our DIY Childhood photo montage, W@W Prenup Photo Montage, shown while the guests were dining
x. our awesome flower girls and bearers!
y. our fabulous Photobooth (check out Fotobrew's site)
z. the wedding announcement which came out May 17, 2009 at the Milestones section of the PDI's Sunday Relationships...
so there!
Some of my fond memories of our wedding!
May 19, 2009
In behalf of my husband Eds and our respective families, we would like to thank EVERYONE who took time to travel to Caite. We really appreciate it. You really made our wedding truly memorable.
A. To both our immediate families (uncles, aunts, grandparents, cousins), for putting up with us (especially me) during months of the preparations. Thanks for helping with the documents, your numerous “sponsorships” and for running some errands on our behalf. Thanks for all the support!!!
B. To my family for all the guidance and support that you have given me and Edu all these years and for helping me in these wedding preparations.
C To Edu’s family, for graciously welcoming me to your family ever since our first meeting and for the numerous support you have given us.
D. To Father Sharkey, for accepting our request to be our wedding celebrant and to Ms. Lhen (parish office secretary) for answering my numerous queries via SMS.
E. To all our principal sponsors for accepting the role without any hesitations.
F. To all our secondary sponsors who are patiently making way for the fitting schedules.
G. To Ms. Hya for accepting to stand as proxy. To Ms. Ludy (our ninang) for helping us secure our confirmation certificates.
H. To my bearers and flower girls for being patient during our fitting schedules.
I. To Mr. Robert (my best friend) for accepting the task to be my entourage’s THMUA.
J. To my brother (and BM) Marvin for providing my bridal car for the wedding and for accompanying me to some of my supplier's meetings.
K. To Ms. Lisville (my former teacher and now colleague) for accepting the role as our Banquet’s emcee, thank you very much Mama Liz!
L. To our suppliers, for doing a great job and for not giving me a headache.
M. To my cyber sister (and fellow w@wie bride) Ahya, for the numerous words of wisdom and compliments which never fails to lighten my mood.
N. To all our liturgical sponsors (commentator, readers, offerors), thank you for accepting the part.
O. To Rachelle “Apol” Villaluna (my student) and her father, (proprietor of my P/V supplier Blessing Photography) Mr. Ruel Villaluna, for the numerous upgrades.
P. To Ms. Lovella Daligdig for making sure that my wedding preps are ok (and for the free back-up photographers) and all our wedding suppliers...
Thank You Very Much!
Our Big Day...
Call it nerves or whatever…but I woke up at 6am…yup two hours in advance of my supposed “wake-up time”. I don’t know, but I’m really is a morning person…Anyway,I took a bath early and had an early breakfast at around 8 am…then Ms. Ludy Riva (my THMUA) and Ms. Maricel (Hairstylist) came. They were actually the first to come…super advance (galling!) then at around 8:45am, Ms. JM from Ms. Mia Barlaan’s House of Weddings, came. She brought a mannequin along for the gown display during the pictorials then at 9 am, Love, along with her team, came.
I was the first one to be prepped up while MS. JM is fixing the gown at the display mannequin and while Love and the team are gathering all the wedding paraphernalia.Then Ms. Myra came in to deliver the entourage flower and showed me pictures of the on going arrangement at St. Michael and Aguinaldo Hall. Sir Ruel and his team from Blessing Photography came just in time as I was about to be readied for my hair. On our rented cabanas, the entourage were also being prepped up by a different HMUA, Robert.He is a good friend who does my make-up every time may graduation or occassion sa school and he offered his services for free.
Robert did the make-up of the bridal entourage while Ms. Ludy Riva & Ms. Maricel did the HMU of the MOHs, MOG, and MOB.
The pictorials were indeed superb and I owe it to Mr. Ruel Villaluna of Blessing Photography (SM DASMA, Weddings in the Sky)..every possible angle, every detail was given attention too.I must admit I was realy nervous but Sir Ruel (also the proprietor), called on everyone for a short prayer.
I was so satisfied with all of my suppliers. Everyone made a visit to tell me how things are going. From Ms Myra (my florist/stylist na super love ko), to Ms. Ludy/Ms. Maricel, to Love et al, to Sir Ruel of Blessings, to Ms. Sharon of Island Cove, to Totally mesmerized, to the church people of St. Michael the Archangel, to Fotobrew crew, to Mila’s Lechon, Frupcakes and the rest…galling…walang sakit sa ulo. They really made our day will be worry free.
…truly ang sarap ikasal.
I loved the
I was the first one to be prepped up while MS. JM is fixing the gown at the display mannequin and while Love and the team are gathering all the wedding paraphernalia.Then Ms. Myra came in to deliver the entourage flower and showed me pictures of the on going arrangement at St. Michael and Aguinaldo Hall. Sir Ruel and his team from Blessing Photography came just in time as I was about to be readied for my hair. On our rented cabanas, the entourage were also being prepped up by a different HMUA, Robert.He is a good friend who does my make-up every time may graduation or occassion sa school and he offered his services for free.
Robert did the make-up of the bridal entourage while Ms. Ludy Riva & Ms. Maricel did the HMU of the MOHs, MOG, and MOB.
The pictorials were indeed superb and I owe it to Mr. Ruel Villaluna of Blessing Photography (SM DASMA, Weddings in the Sky)..every possible angle, every detail was given attention too.I must admit I was realy nervous but Sir Ruel (also the proprietor), called on everyone for a short prayer.
I was so satisfied with all of my suppliers. Everyone made a visit to tell me how things are going. From Ms Myra (my florist/stylist na super love ko), to Ms. Ludy/Ms. Maricel, to Love et al, to Sir Ruel of Blessings, to Ms. Sharon of Island Cove, to Totally mesmerized, to the church people of St. Michael the Archangel, to Fotobrew crew, to Mila’s Lechon, Frupcakes and the rest…galling…walang sakit sa ulo. They really made our day will be worry free.
…truly ang sarap ikasal.
I loved the
May 18, 2009
From Dreamers to Doers...Part 2!
Mommy (red blouse), Gel, Mama Lolit, Josh, Nanay and Tita Susan...
“Ano ba, patulugin nyo na ang bride!” .
This is my MOH's line when people just keep getting in my room...
From Dreamers to Doers...
Wow, I really missed blogging…it has been almost 9 days since I blogged my last entry…
Well so much has taken place since Our Big Day that I literally need to write them down so I can remember them.
Flashback to May 15, 2009
MORNING
I woke up early for the last minute packing of wedding paraphernalias and have our confession which was scheduled at 7:00 am at the Parish of St. Michael. Eds came at around 6:00 am, we had breakfast of homemade Pork Tocino, fried egg and rice before we headed to the church along with my brother, my cousins Jen and Angelo.
I was so amazed when I saw the church because it has drapes on it (talk about luck and Divine Intervention!) and it was really set-up there since the Parish is celebrating their month-long fiesta.Not only was it adorned with drapes (ala Juday-Ryan), it also has some gold and yellow fabrics which adorns the altar…
Well so much has taken place since Our Big Day that I literally need to write them down so I can remember them.
Flashback to May 15, 2009
MORNING
I woke up early for the last minute packing of wedding paraphernalias and have our confession which was scheduled at 7:00 am at the Parish of St. Michael. Eds came at around 6:00 am, we had breakfast of homemade Pork Tocino, fried egg and rice before we headed to the church along with my brother, my cousins Jen and Angelo.
I was so amazed when I saw the church because it has drapes on it (talk about luck and Divine Intervention!) and it was really set-up there since the Parish is celebrating their month-long fiesta.Not only was it adorned with drapes (ala Juday-Ryan), it also has some gold and yellow fabrics which adorns the altar…
Church Drapings
The confession really didn’t take that long and t wasn’t the usual confession that I was expecting…actually Eds was memorizing The Act of Contrition on our way to the church. I went first and after a good 15-minute, it was Eds’ turn. All in all, it took us just about 30 minutes, after which we had a short chat with Fr. Sharkey who reminded us not to be late so we can have longer time for picture taking.
NOON
We had lunch at our house-Mechado (c/o my lola) and Pork bbq (mom’s specialty). My luggages were all set and so with Eds. However, I was having tantrums as per the schedules made by my other relatives and some “friends” who were all cancelling just now (katuwa diba?). Anyway, Eds was supposed to be checking in with us by 2 p.m., however, Citimotors called up saying that his SUV is scheduled for temporary release. He will be checking in at a later time along with my future in-laws.
AFTERNOON
I together with my aunts Tita Loida & Tita Susan, my cousins Gel & Josh, gathered all the wedding paraphernalias on the way to check in at Island Cove. It was a smooth travel except for the usual traffic along Aguinaldo Highway. When we arrived at Island Cove, we were received very well. They were prompt in assisting us even asking for more staff to help us carry our numerous luggages. We booked 2 simplex cabanas (single detached), 1 Hotel superior and 1 executive veranda (their biggest room).
Tita Susan, Tita Loida & Josh.
One of the 2 Simplex we reserved.
Taking a pose at my room's veranda.
A quick dip at the pool.
Taking a pose at my room's veranda.
A quick dip at the pool.
When we arrived my cousin Josh was too eager to roam around Island Cove but my tita insisted that we arrange the wedding stuff first and glad we did it that early. It was so cold in my room that Angelo (another cousin) fell asleep easily and it was WiFi zone.
Then I obliged to have a dip in the pool to release all the tension and stress of the day yet to come and hit the Jacuzzi (which was stone throw away from my veranda).Since my other cousins and Eds’ family were not yet around, we decided to have their cabanas all prepped up by turning the airconditioning units on and ready for their arrival.
EVENING
After my quick hiatus to the pool, I went back to watch my two cousins as they were enjoying their swimming, then Eds along with Mama Cora and Papa Ed and the rest of his family and relatives arrived. They were delighted to see the cabana and delighted with how big Island Cove was.
Eds and his brother, Em, went to check their room (Hotel Superior) before having our dinner.
We had a sumptuous meal at the Sangley Point restaurant along with Tita Loida, Tita Susan, Josh, Gelo and Eds. Eds and Josh both had pasta Bolognese, me and Tita Loida ordered Fetuccine Meat Carbonarra, Tita Susan had Aioli Shrimp Pasta while Gelo had Chicken Bbq Skewers. Though the meals were a bit pricey, the serving size and the taste compensates for it.
While we were having dinner, my cousins along with my lola, my other titas and my parents came.My parents originally planned to stay but opted to just pay a visit since my cousins all occupied the cabana.
Then I obliged to have a dip in the pool to release all the tension and stress of the day yet to come and hit the Jacuzzi (which was stone throw away from my veranda).Since my other cousins and Eds’ family were not yet around, we decided to have their cabanas all prepped up by turning the airconditioning units on and ready for their arrival.
EVENING
After my quick hiatus to the pool, I went back to watch my two cousins as they were enjoying their swimming, then Eds along with Mama Cora and Papa Ed and the rest of his family and relatives arrived. They were delighted to see the cabana and delighted with how big Island Cove was.
Eds and his brother, Em, went to check their room (Hotel Superior) before having our dinner.
We had a sumptuous meal at the Sangley Point restaurant along with Tita Loida, Tita Susan, Josh, Gelo and Eds. Eds and Josh both had pasta Bolognese, me and Tita Loida ordered Fetuccine Meat Carbonarra, Tita Susan had Aioli Shrimp Pasta while Gelo had Chicken Bbq Skewers. Though the meals were a bit pricey, the serving size and the taste compensates for it.
While we were having dinner, my cousins along with my lola, my other titas and my parents came.My parents originally planned to stay but opted to just pay a visit since my cousins all occupied the cabana.
Eds and I paid our venue a visit and boy, it was prepped up at this early time...
Our venue...a day before the Big Day...
I was really happy that they were all enjoying their time and each other’s company. In fact my cosuins planned on having overnight swimming but Island Cove has a 10pm curfew…hehe.
Super enjoy @ Island Cove...
LATE EVENING
Just when you think I was already sleeping, I checked out my emails from W@W and even posted an entry to my blog. Afterwhich, I spent time taking crazy pics along with my girls (cousins) to my maid of honors horror…she literally kept on saying “Ano ba, patulugin nyo na ang bride!” .
Just when you think I was already sleeping, I checked out my emails from W@W and even posted an entry to my blog. Afterwhich, I spent time taking crazy pics along with my girls (cousins) to my maid of honors horror…she literally kept on saying “Ano ba, patulugin nyo na ang bride!” .
May 17, 2009
Reality Kicks In...
Good day! As I woke up this morning, reality kicked in-I am now Mrs. Abygail P. Magbag which means I have to update records etc. but more than that I should start acting as a married woman...whew! After a year ong preparation..it was all worth it! For now let me share these two pics taken during our first breakfast as husband and wife...
Enjoying our first breakfast as man & wife....
Buffet breakfast @ Sangley Point Cafe, Island Cove Hotel & Leisure Park...
May 14, 2009
We Are Ready...Aren't We?
OMG! Its just a day to go...and yes WE ARE READY.
This morning our souvenirs arrived after they were wrapped by Eds' titas and cousins in Pampanga. We need to print out the photostubs and apply the corrections to our misalettes.
We are scheduled to have our confession tomorrow at the Parish of St.Michael at 7:00am and later in the afternoon,check in at Island Cove at 2:00 pm.
Im also happy to share that I'll be venturing into events planning after the wedding. I'll be in partnership with an existing wedding coordination service provider... I won't be give the details yet but it keeps me excited...
May 13, 2009
Printed Misalettes
Our misalettes finally arrived ( I made the misalettes but had them printed by Ms. Lovella, my wedding coordinator) this afternoon. We ordered 100 copies for the guests and 2 hardbound copies for Fr. Sharkey and for Eds & me.
The guest's copy is made from metallic gold board for cover, bond paper inserts with golden ribbons adorning each. Our copy is made from handmade paper with dried flowers, fossilized leaf and dried twigs on the cover.I wanted something unconventional.Super maganda siya and I added some more details by putting a bookmark with charms matching our motiff.
Our hardbound misalette and misalettes for our guests.
More pics to come...
Are You Marrying the Right Person?
This is a very good article. Those who are still single may learn something from here... Those who are already married may take it as a guideline to improve your marriage & relationship.
DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?
During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said, 'How do I know if I married the right person?' I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, 'It depends. Is that your husband?' In all seriousness, she answered 'How do you know?'
Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind.
Here's the answer.
EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse / partner. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their *idiosyncrasies* (unconventional behavior/habit) .
Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to *DO* anything. That's why it's called 'falling' in love... Because it's happening *TO YOU*.
People in love sometimes say, 'I was swept of my feet.' Think about the imagery of that expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened *TO YOU*.
Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage, the *euphoria* (excitement) of love fades. It's the natural cycle of *EVERY *relationship. Slowly but surely , phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's *idiosyncrasies* , instead of being cute, drive you nuts.
The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.
At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, 'Did I marry the right person?' And as you and your spouse reflect on the *euphoria* of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment.
Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.
But the answer to this dilemma does *NOT* lie outside your marriage. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could.
And *TEMPORARILY* you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. *Because* (listen carefully to this): *
THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll *NEVER*just happen to you. You can't 'find' *LASTING* love. You have to 'make' it day in and day out. That's why we have the __expression 'the labor of love.' Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes *WISDOM*. You have to know *WHAT TO DO* to make your marriage work.
Make no mistake about it. Love is *NOT *a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage. Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship *WILL*make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable. .. you can 'make' love. Love in marriage is indeed a 'decision'.. . *Not*just a feeling.
Remember this always:
'God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go.'*
DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?
During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said, 'How do I know if I married the right person?' I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, 'It depends. Is that your husband?' In all seriousness, she answered 'How do you know?'
Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind.
Here's the answer.
EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse / partner. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their *idiosyncrasies* (unconventional behavior/habit) .
Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to *DO* anything. That's why it's called 'falling' in love... Because it's happening *TO YOU*.
People in love sometimes say, 'I was swept of my feet.' Think about the imagery of that expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened *TO YOU*.
Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage, the *euphoria* (excitement) of love fades. It's the natural cycle of *EVERY *relationship. Slowly but surely , phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's *idiosyncrasies* , instead of being cute, drive you nuts.
The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.
At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, 'Did I marry the right person?' And as you and your spouse reflect on the *euphoria* of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment.
Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.
But the answer to this dilemma does *NOT* lie outside your marriage. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could.
And *TEMPORARILY* you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. *Because* (listen carefully to this): *
THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll *NEVER*just happen to you. You can't 'find' *LASTING* love. You have to 'make' it day in and day out. That's why we have the __expression 'the labor of love.' Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes *WISDOM*. You have to know *WHAT TO DO* to make your marriage work.
Make no mistake about it. Love is *NOT *a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage. Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship *WILL*make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable. .. you can 'make' love. Love in marriage is indeed a 'decision'.. . *Not*just a feeling.
Remember this always:
'God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go.'*
May 12, 2009
Tuloy Pa Rin...
And its final, after so many arguements, after so many tears, we have decided to pursue our honeymoon plans for HK-Macau.All along we thought Cebu Pacific will waive the cancellation/re-booking fee for flights to Swine Flu affected countries, di naman pala.In fact may discrepancies pa nga sa online charges nila when you rebook your flight online and kapag over the phone...hmmmm???
We also changed our hotel from Caritas Bianchi. now we are booked in Ramada Hong Kong...
May 11, 2009
...and a Few More
4 days to go...this morning I sent my cousin to St. Michael for the list of our principal sponsors and their addresses and at the same time, pay our remaining balance. Tomorrow, we will have our rehearsal at 8:30am and on the 15th, a confession at 7:00 am. We got the barong of my FIL2b. He just arrived last May 1 so na delay yung pagbigay namin ng measurements kay Mang Rey but knowing how efficient he is, natapos on time.Sad lang may sore eyes nagyuon si Mang Rey so he had it sent via LBC (galing noh?)
FIL2b's barong sent via LBC by Mang Rey Casedo
Last night before retiring, I decorated the basket to hold the misals for distribution... here are some pics...
Basket details for misalettes.
Updates...updates...
As of tonight...
Misal- ready for pick up on wednesday; fully paid
2 Hardbound misals (for Fr. Sharkey and for us), 100 pcs. softbound with gold cover.
Bodyform- paid already (Php 500.00); fitted it already with the gown
Frupcakes- full payment (sa wakas)
Menu Labels, VIP Placecards, Table Numbers-endorsed to Ms. Lovella already
Lechon (Mila's)-ordered 2 Big Lechon Baboy - Php 5,200.00 each + delivery charge of Php 1,300.00
-deposited 50% already
-faxed deposit slip to Mila's lechon main branch
*matutulog akong masaya!
Misal- ready for pick up on wednesday; fully paid
2 Hardbound misals (for Fr. Sharkey and for us), 100 pcs. softbound with gold cover.
Bodyform- paid already (Php 500.00); fitted it already with the gown
Frupcakes- full payment (sa wakas)
Menu Labels, VIP Placecards, Table Numbers-endorsed to Ms. Lovella already
Lechon (Mila's)-ordered 2 Big Lechon Baboy - Php 5,200.00 each + delivery charge of Php 1,300.00
-deposited 50% already
-faxed deposit slip to Mila's lechon main branch
*matutulog akong masaya!
Changes...
In a matter of five days, there will be a lot of changes...change ng surname, change ng status,change ng habits (di na kasi single, so may mag-iiba na), change ng bahay...huhu...hay naku, at this early time emote mode na ako...anyways these are inevitable naman and since I chose married life over life of single-blessedness, I should be open to these changes...
VIP Placecards, Menu Labels & Final Guest List
DIY Menu Labels (2 sets) & Vip Placecards
Wow, we only have 5 as in five days to go but instead of feeling nervous about it, well medyo nag-cease na yun...I'm calmer now especially things are now going the way we want them to. Last night I dis some more DIYs and I got to print and cut them already. I did the VIP placecards, the menu labels (which I printed by 2's kasi 2-way yung buffet) and just now, the final guestlist (na parang highblood pressure na lolobo at biglang bababa).
As I am writing this post, I am waiting for Ms. Love (of Special Events by the Planner) as she wanted to have our meeting done in our house na lang for my comfort (awww....). She will be bringing the body form that we will use to have the gown on display for the pictorial as she needs to find out if the fitting form fits the frame...super mura ang kuha ni Love, as in Php500.00 lang!).I'll be paying na rin our balance for the misalettes...
...so there...
Airbrush Makeup Technique
What is Airbrush Makeup?
Airbrush makeup is makeup that is sprayed on to the face and body using a fine mist. Most airbrush makeup kits include a sprayer, a hose, a small compressor, and samples of foundations in several tones. The liquid foundation or colored makeup flows easily through the airbrush due to its fine particle size.
The airbrushing technique provides a flawless, sheer result that is desired for the film and television industry. It is perfect for close-up shots. Makeup artists like the natural-looking effect airbrush makeup gives. Airbrush makeup also prevents product contamination between clients. Since the makeup is in jars that attach to the air brush, artists can apply makeup to several people without contact between clients. Models like the fact that airbrush makeup lessens the pulling and tugging on the skin.
Makeup
Airbrush makeup is specially formulated using fine pigments so as to not clog the machine and equipment. It is the fine pigment size that gives a sheer, flawless finish. Because of the flawless finish, translucent powder is not always needed to set the makeup. Makeup companies such as Kryolan produce airbrush makeup that is fast drying and smudge-proof.
Airbrush makeup is makeup that is sprayed on to the face and body using a fine mist. Most airbrush makeup kits include a sprayer, a hose, a small compressor, and samples of foundations in several tones. The liquid foundation or colored makeup flows easily through the airbrush due to its fine particle size.
The airbrushing technique provides a flawless, sheer result that is desired for the film and television industry. It is perfect for close-up shots. Makeup artists like the natural-looking effect airbrush makeup gives. Airbrush makeup also prevents product contamination between clients. Since the makeup is in jars that attach to the air brush, artists can apply makeup to several people without contact between clients. Models like the fact that airbrush makeup lessens the pulling and tugging on the skin.
Makeup
Airbrush makeup is specially formulated using fine pigments so as to not clog the machine and equipment. It is the fine pigment size that gives a sheer, flawless finish. Because of the flawless finish, translucent powder is not always needed to set the makeup. Makeup companies such as Kryolan produce airbrush makeup that is fast drying and smudge-proof.
May 10, 2009
A Sunday Minus Eds
Yesterday, I felt my Sunday wasn't complete- Eds isnt with me. They went to Pampanga last Saturday afternoon for his parent's house blessing (which I was invited but due to pamahiin, was not allowed by the elderly). Good thing I have Jeff and Jen (cousins of mine) to accompany me to the mall. Jeff drove us to Southmall as he will be buying his black shoes for the wedding and Jen accompanied me for a Spirulina body scrub (super effective for me) then meet with our HMUA-Ms. Ludy Riva. We signed the contract already and the package was uper affordable-imagine Php5,000.00 for Bride (Airbrush), Groom + 2pax.
...The Bride Was Beautiful
6 days before our wedding day and I'm killing myself with the details that are either just a product of my berserk imagination or wedding jitters when I saw this post on my fellow W@Wies blog
Katie Kirkpatrick, 21, held off cancer to celebrate the happiest day of her life. Katie had chased away cancer once, only to have it return - to clog her lungs and grab hold of her heart. Breathing was difficult now, she had to use oxygen. The pain in her back was so intense it broke through the morphine that was supposed to act as a shield. Her organs were shutting down but it would not stop her from marrying Nick Godwin, 23, who was in love with Katie since 11th grade.
Five days later, Katie died.
http://www.romainblanquart.com/Roro/Bride_0.html
May 9, 2009
Am Not Just a Bride, I'm A W@Wie Bride!
I am so glad to have been a part of this egroup.. people are soooo friendly and they really answer your questions! I can't believe how many people are getting married despite the financial crisis...Aside from learning about the W@Wie bride vocabulary (h2b, MIL2b, FIL2b), I also earned friends, met a lot of suppliers, got a lot of wedding ideas and learned insights from various brides and of course dozens of freebies...
..now that our wedding day is nearing, Ill surely miss being a part of this e-Group...
..now that our wedding day is nearing, Ill surely miss being a part of this e-Group...
Manic & Lonely Weekends
The view from the outside...
Eds & I at the banquet office & our reception venue.
Aguinaldo Hall with set-up for a birthday.
MANIC!- This day was indeed manic for me...early this morning we went to Island Cove with Eds and my cousins who want to see the venue. We paid for our balance and cleared some details with our AE such as our preferred color of flowers, type of flowers and time of set-up.We also went around Island Cove and here are some pics...
Late in the afternoon, I picked up the floor plan which I had printed in poster size and mounted on Sintra board...this is how it looked like...I just need to post more info...
Printed seat plan on poster size sintra board.
LONELY!- oh yes...I am lonely having Eds in Pampanga means working on some wedding details by myself (which of course I am not accustomed to...)
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